Sorry SD decided to wake me up, not take me up.

My husband he at first did nothing this all started when SD who was then 16 was seeing and spending time with this much older male (30) who we told her she could not see, My husband kept telling me they were just friends, Then I started noticing things on my internet connection would not work when she was here, then things were being deleted off my computer,that she was visiting these sites from my pc, I'd rather not say, then she started bad-mouthing my husband and I. I had let her use my pc one afternoon, the next morning I wake up go to my computer everyone else was sleeping still, I thought I was checking my fb messages however after reading one of them I noticed it was her messages where she was badmouthing her dad and I. she comes out stands there for a minute goes into the bathroom, comes out stands there for a minute watching me, her dad wakes up, I know she saw me copy and paste and take a screen shot. he thought I was blaming his daughter that it was all in my head, as soon as he comes out she asks him to take her to the library, I was about to say no, then i decided to wait until she was gone, we come back and I showed my husband the screen shot, he messages his daughter from fb and started calling her baby this baby that, not even a punishment for lying and bad- mouthing me. she throws on the tears and he hugs her tightly and says just don;t do it again, Then it got worse, Her dad sold her TV and she got mad at me. I told my husband to tell her it was his idea not mine. then the mini wife thing kicked in and suddenly they were at the table having low conversations playing footsie under the table. she would have him get up even though she was closest to the fridge and have him get her a drink. He called me baby and she said I am your baby, after that he stopped calling me baby and started calling me dear. she pretended her ankle was hurt so he would take her to the library, I caught unto that one and I said yanno maybe we should take you to the doctors to have it checked out, that put an end to that one
( until recently) then she started getting Popsicle's and having him look at her eat them, I noticed other things and its been progressing on both ends now. I stopped him from getting the Popsicle. I have had to hide my computer and stay awake all the time she is here.I left my computer out in the living room thinking she was in bed, i had turned all the lights off and then they came back on. so i went out she ran to her room and i took my computer in with me, I told him i do not like it when he kisses her on the lips, they play with each others hair or in some way are touching each other, low conversations only between them, new years eve I was very sick, husbands dad was here and they were at the table playing a game my husband was trying to look at me and smile at me she blocked his view of me. I talked to him once about the mini wife thing because she asked me if she could use my phone to call this 30 year old guy i told her no and i took my phone with me to the store, she got upset with me but oh well. things have been getting more and more where I feel like I am now a child and she is the wife/adult. if I say anything about anything while he daughter is here, I get yelled and screamed at, I get dirty looks from the both of them, I get told not to mention her name or bring up anything about her at all. This has really not made it easy to deal with the death of my mom/aunt at the same time dealing with this, she had tried to kill her last SM, I have become very ill where my lungs collapsed over a year ago, unexplained illnesses. Things of mine coming up missing when she is here, I feel like I am living in a nightmare, I feel like I can not say anything because when I do say anything or even ask a question I get yelled at, told I am starting a fight.

My husband has admitted last night that I was right, He needed to be more firm about her showing me respect, I love my SD and my husband, He feels torn apart, I am not the one competing for his attention. I would like to have a conversation with my husband about bills, our budget, be able to communicate with him as well. anytime we do try to talk, SD clears her throat to get his attention, he gave me a kiss she throws a stuffed animal at me and tells him to come over to him she whispers something in his ear, he smiles and laughs with a grin, she gives me a smirk and dirty look. She tried telling us we do not spend time with her, So we ask her to watch a movie with us, she says no and continues to give me dirty looks and has him getting up get me a drink, plays with the back of his neck or his hair, SD17 will then be like, are we going to do anything. your more then welcome to come watch this movie with us, spanks him on the butt, he tickles her and pats her butt, im so sick of seeing this!! I have tried to say okay maybe she is wanting to spend more time with her dad, that's fine. Okay maybe she feels left out so we play a game this behavior never stops!

Most teens her age are hanging out with their friends at the mall. going to their friends houses, I am sorry I just needed somewhere to vent,

I believe in gods law of marriage, I just can not keep my mouth quiet about whats going on because its getting harder and harder to the point where I am ready to leave. I have never told him its me or your daughter, that would be wrong of me, I am so confused right now.

I had a long serious conversation with my husband yesterday, He said there relationship has always been this close. To me there is a such thing as being close and too close with your kids. Yes, I do have a webcam and a super mic and I am going to hook them up to the other laptop in the other room where it can still capture everything only they are not going to know I have it on, I talked to my aunt about things and she even said I had every right to kick her out of my house, After my conversation with my husband yesterday, He also said we needed to give his daughter a week or two away from us because he more then likely pissed her off as well and he did not even friging message her on face-book after i told him that she posted our personal home life on her face-book. AND YES THE MINI WIFE I DESCRIBED IS REALLY TRUE.

IF ANY OF THIS HAPPENS WHEN SHE IS HERE AGAIN! I AM GOING TO GET UP AND LEAVE. HOWEVER BEFORE I DO LEAVE SHE IS AND WILL GO BACK TO HER MOTHERS.!

DH AND I ARE MOVING OUTTA STATE WITHOUT SD17. I HAD NO OTHER CHOICE BUT TO KICK HER OUT. I CHANGED ALL THE PASSWORDS AND RESTORED MY COMPUTERS AFTER SAVING EVERYTHING TO DISK WHICH I LOCKED UP IN A CASE TO WHERE IF ANY COME UP MISSING THEY ARE ABC'D SO I WILL KNOW. SHE IS COMING TO GET HER THINGS BEFORE SHE MOVES, BEFORE SHE COMES OVER IM GOING THROUGH ALL HER THINGS TO MAKE SURE NONE OF MINE ARE IN THERE!!