Hi all.

I just need to get this off my chest and get some feed back.
Ive been with my boyfriend now for 7 months. Out of those 7 months we have lived together for 6 of them. Everythnig between us for the most part is fine. I never beleived in soul mates before meeting him but I do now. He has been seperated for almost 3 years now and divorced for the past 5 months. When we met he was living back wih his parents. As I understand it, it was his ex wife who decided she didnt want to be with him anymore after a 20 year relationship of which they were married for 10 of those years.
When he was living with his parents and before I come into his life, he was still paying all the bills at the house and also going around to sort any maintanace that needed doing. In the early days of the split He used to go round early in the morning so the kids didnt know they had split.
He pursued me for around 6 months before I finally agreed to date him.
My problem is this. I am yet to meet his children. He goes off of a week end to see his boys for a few hours at a time. Sometimes he goes saturday and sunday. He may also go and see them for a couple of hours one day through the week. He speaks to them every day on the phone. Hes a really good dad. He also pays a good amount of maintainance.When he sees them, he picks them up from what used to be the marital home and takes them out or round his parents. He agrees that it is time he told them about me and that he is going to sort it out. But he hasnt yet. Hes told me he has planted the seed in thier heads about him having a "lady friend" and that he lives with that lady friend.
His eldest boys response was that he would prefer him to still live at his parents or with a male friend. His ex wife knows about me and has done since almost day one. She has tried to put a spanner in the works by telling my boyfriend I had an affair with a married man and that I moved this supposed married man out in Janruary and moved him in in the Feb....All of this is a fabrication and I have no idea why she would say that to him.
Me and my boyfriend do everythnig together. If we're not at work and hes not with his boys then we are together. He phones me at least 3 times a day from his work place and always lets me know every move he is making. Whether its work related or othewise. He tells me he is proud to be my boyfriend and that he loves me like hes never loved anyone before in his life and I beleive him. I have met all his friends and all his family so I am not a secret from them, just his boys. He has even said that at christmas he is going to ask me to marry him properly.
I have told him to grow a pair of balls and just tell his boys about us....I have told him children are resiliant and they will adjust. I know he wants to tell them but there is something holding him back. I personally think it has alot to do with his ex wife.
I over heard a conversation he had with her but he didnt know i was lsitening. He told her how much he loved me and that heis very happy. He also told her that it is about time he told the boys. I dont know what her response was to that but after a about 10 seconds silence he said to her...Well if they dont like it then I will move out. I was devastated. I confonted him and he said hes not going anywhere EVER. I asked him why he would say that to her and all he would focus on was the fact that he had also told her how much he loves me.
What do I do as the whole thing is driving me nuts and sooner or later the boiling pot is going to explode.
His boys by the way are 7 and 11. It is the eldest boy who im told isnt reay to hear his dad has got a real girlfriend who he loves and lives with.

Thank you in advance for any comments or advice.