My mother in law is a piece of shit. She has always sided with the SK's even though she only sees them once or twice a year, and only if/when we took them to her, she has never visited us even though we are a 20 minute drive from her home. Her birth son, my DH, has tried to kindly tell her to stay out of it and to allow him to raise his kids the way he sees fit but her and her husband (my DH's stepdad) just won't stop. They have even become very nasty in phone calls, shockingly nasty. The last time my DH talked to his SD was last Christmas and I was brought into the mix by his SD blaming me for everything that is wrong with SK's. He literally told my DH that he has his head up my ass so far he can't see. Of course, this has made my DH not even want to call to talk to his own mother for fear that his SD will answer the phone. It has really driven a wedge between my DH and his mother. According to SD19, her step grandfather has even bitched her out for not visiting enough and made her cry yet her own birth grandmother didn't come to her defense and now SD doesn't want to visit them either. Ironically SD19 is coming around and we have seen and heard from her quite a bit lately - dare I say she is growing up?! SD seems very happy with her life now, living with her BF and his family when we asked her to pay rent if she wasn't going to attend college.

Last Mothers day my DH called his mother and invited her out for a meal, she stated she was too busy (she's retired, so how busy is she) but anyway, he told her the offer was open anytime and to back it up he sent her a $50 gift card to her favorite restaurant inside a nice Mother's day card. He left the ball in her court and said for her to call him when she wanted to get together. Dead silence from her end until the other day, DH's birthday. She finally called late into the evening stating she wanted to mail a birthday card but didn't have his address (really?!!). DH again mentioned that he was still waiting to have a meal with her and that he would even take time off work to make it as convenient to her as possible and she literally came back with "I should just mail you that gift card back since I never have time". Fine, you want nothing to do with your son but what came out of her mouth next is what really pissed me and DH off, she very nasty said "So, have you seen YOUR kids lately" to which DH said "yes, I saw SD last night and SS about 2 weeks ago". He also told her that the SK's emailed her on FB to get together for a meal but SHE never replied to them. She then lied and said she never gets on FB and didn't see their message. I guess she doesn't realize that you can see when someone reads your message on FB.

Oh how I wish DH would have thought to say to her back, "So, have you seen YOUR kid lately" - what a hypocrite she is, making him feel so badly that his relationship with his kids isn't the greatest yet literally telling her own son she doesn't even have time to have dinner with him.

Of course, she had to end the call with a sympathy pang...."i have to have a test at the doctors" (she has had cancer in the past).

So here we sitting waiting for his late birthday card to arrive with what we believe to have the restaurant gift card that he gave her inside. DH was joking that we can either regift the card (we don't really like that restaurant but it's his moms favorite) or do we put it back in her birthday card (her birthday is in a few days) with a note that she should take whomever she likes (since it's obvious she doesn't want to spend time with DH).

It's been three days and I'm still steaming about it and you could see DH was hurt by it. I guess I just needed to vent. She has some nerve acting like DH is a bad father when she is such a rotten mother.