After a 12 hour work day DH and I start talking about next weekend's visit with sd15. I should have known better. I was tired, cranky and all I wanted was a shower and my bed. But DH has now decided that unless the bad behaviour happens at our house (during a once a month visit) there will no longer be consequences for that behaviour.

I told him that if he choices to parent his child that way, I'm out. I'm disengaging. I will just sit back and watch that train wreck happen. I can not in good conscience find out she is disrespecting her teachers, lying, failing classes, and the countless other things this brat does and turn around celebrate by taking her to a movie or whatever she wants. No fucking way. His thinking is that she gets away with it at her mom's so why should we be the heavy? I tried to tell him that all he's doing giving a bit 'screw you' to his ex but his daughter is paying the price. He just doesn't get it. AND...he told her this!! Just wow.

But I know him...this will backfire and he will snap on her one day and she will cry and say 'but daddy, you said I wouldn't get in trouble with you anymore!'. I will prepare the popcorn now for that feature show!

I also told him I will be having a t-shirt made that simply says "Go Ask Your Father" and will point at it every time she comes to me from now on. He didn't see the humour in it, but I think I would make a fortune.