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Oops... That probably wasn't mature of me...

red flags's picture

I talked to ex FDH on the phone tonight after basically not speaking since yesterday morning. He declined to pick up his daughter and instead went out & got tanked with one of our friends to talk about what a crazy bitch I am for calling off our wedding. I spent my entire day packing. Got 95% done in 4 hours (nothing like anger to motivate a gal). He made a snide comment about how nice it is already to have my dogs out of the house. I slipped and said how nice it was not to be around his daughter. He lost it on me and said "my daughter doesn't bark at people when they are trying to go to bed." I said "no, she just gets in people's faces, has no manners, and sings "I hate you all for Christmas."" I'll take the dogs any day!

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Pook's picture

So are you moving back into your house which is currently occupied by his relatives? Icky situation!

red flags's picture

I talked to them today. They are going to find another place ASAP. I'm staying with my family until that happens

checkedoutsm's picture

"Dogs bark because they are dogs."

This is a great way to describe COW (my name for BM).

checkedoutsm's picture

lol!! She is also a bitch so the dog thing works too! Her bark is worse than her bite, but it is definitely funnier to picture her MOO-ing!

Tmr43's picture

You gotta kp me updated. Your situation is almost exactly like mine. And I finally left too but moved bk 2 states away. Now we're bk together but it's long distance. He FINALLY took.sd8 to a psychiatrist bc she has def problems and I sd it's bs to invite someone to share your life and then expect them to tolerate something wrong w the kid and no one acknowledges it???.flipn crazy making!!!!. plus she is spoiled too, no chores no respect, no accountability, does nothing for herself, no friends, just demanding. But I do care about her. My kids r grown and I have a 10 month old grand baby, sd8 acts weird too and my mom sd not to trust her around my gb. My daughter says she scares her etc... She will just out of blue yell ahhhh... I think to release excitement etc ...but I also think some kind of mental illness along w being spoiled and immature. My bf is a great dad but refuses to "parent" his daughter. So she gets away w everything. He says implementing rules and chores tomorrow... He has her every other full wk and wkend so we have her 50% of the time... And I find myself resenting it. I won't move bk until I know what psychiatrist diagnoses her with, until he teaches her respect n chores etc... I don't know what to do either. But I left... Then we yelled too... N I got alot off my chest, sd his child had something wrong w her, sd she was spoiled,.blamed him n his ex. I also added he needed to kp ex out of our lives except where sd was concerned,. I sd alot lol... Fully expecting him to hate me bc I sd I resented his daughter at times.... He laughed and sd that's it??? He sd if he were in my shoes he'd feel the same but he loved me for caring enough for his daughter that I forced him to seek professional help for her and how I wanted what was best for her etc... He sd human nature to once and awhile resent the situation. Hmmmm... Sneaky of him to b understanding lol... So I'm waiting to see what happens. I sd I'm not moving bk til changes r made. I also sd we needed counseling as a couple before I'd marry him bc this is some bs!!! N it's alot to deal with. But your situation is soooo much like mine. And that lil girl nds professional help as well as rules etc ... And I mean psychiatrist shld evaluate her. My gosh, some cld b not her fault at all. Wonder if chemical imbalance or maybe nds behavioral therapy idk.... But ur ex shld do that for his daughter to give her the tools she's gonna nd in life. Whether you go bk or not. But my guess, you'll go bk. You may not move bk in tho... Like me, can't handle it atm... But I just think you'll get bk together. Kp us updated Smile