Thank you

Tell me about it. Its undeniable how Peaceful life is without the Skid Marks who unfortuanately are still out there somewhere with their drama, Also unfortunate how it never ends sometimes even as adults. I admit that Its got to this point where I wasnt even all that shocked over her supposedly former career as an Escort,  ( God knows what else she has gotten herself into,,very telling ) I am actually glad in a weird sort of way that I found out.  And also glad she reacted like the same spoiled 12 year old brat when she knew I learend about it, Im sure she is just pisssed because she was banking on us not finding out,,,Forgetting that everything in the dark eventually comes into the light, Once in a while, while debating with myself over whether to give her yet another chance, i was secretly hoping that something about her would come up would once again come to light and validate what the good Old Intuition was saying,,,it didnt steer me wrong

He has,,,thank God..I am hoping he has finallly seen the light although stopped being totally blind to her BS years ago.

A couple of days later, when we were sitting in the waiting room at the Vet. From the corner of my eye, I saw a text in from her starting with whole Daddeeeeee schpeel. Most likely pitching him the same sob story she tried to tell when she confronted me in which little to no accountability was taking, And most likely blasting me for also not buying it. I saw that he ignored the text and kept doing what he was doing,,,so I am hoping that a good sign that hes not feeding into her crap, 

You are very correct...its definitely not a happy win and the apple didnt fall far at all from the Bat Shit Crazy Tree.Not by a long shot

DH had found out about this after the fact, so I have no idea who bailed her out once she was charged, Maybe her Pimp or her alleged Fiance/ latest Boyfriend sprung her instead...Fine by Me...I have had my own set of seperate finances ( SD, BM when he still "owed her useless ass CS being a huge reason why I felt that didnt have to change and it certainly wont)  SD is hopefully at least smart enough to understand we dont have that kind of money ,,and she is not to get one red cent from me. That I can promise. 

I did decide to break down and tell him after letting the news simmer with myself for a couple of days or so. I just had to cave since it was eating me up inside and was having a difficult time being able to hide it.  I simply showed him the news article, being as supportive as possible without rubbing his nose in it.Once I bared him the facts, I also once again clarified that in case it wasnt perfectly crystal clear before, that this is why I have no longer felt totally comfortable and now actually feel unsafe about  rekindling the relationship with her since she has come out of the swamp at times acting like she is entitled to that from me. Ive felt this way without this news, but I felt this was the extra clarifcation and point that I needed to make just so that there are no more delusions otherwise. I might not have handled it well since despite my resolve, my own feelings of stress about her bubbled up and this is far from the first time.  I feel i should be justified  in being way beyond playing pretend so the cats been out of the bag, But seriously, how else does one handle this situation?  Am I supposed to have framed her mug shot or proudly displayed it on the fridge? By the way, she shows zero sign of shame in it too..actually looks smug about it like it was nothing,  I got verification of her lack of remorse when a few days later ( after two years without a word from her) she emerges out of Facebook Hiding with all this long winded BS totally defending her career as a sex worker.  She actually urged me to check out the show THe Client List for my undestanding and education. ( I am NO supermodel either but this Girl is also as far removed from Jennifer Love Hewittt as you can get too) Totally peddling it like a  religion ( which she also tried to guilt me with too) Most of her message started off regurgiating Bible quotes about no one should Judge anyone but God and none of us are without Sin ( it went ON like that) . Leave it to her to glamorize a FICTIONAL TV show about a high end escort . How many shows feature female doctors, nurses, attorneys, etc...and this is the thing that moves and inspries her ( in her area..trust me..I doubt she is getting wealthy cliente).Maybe that was part of her problem before the State Police had conducted a sting operation to catch her..She should have known that kind of thing is just not in the movies. I have never seen this show and I especially have no desire to..( Ironically , it popped up on my Hulu screen when they try to recommend shows. So, even my Roku is against me..like I wanted a reminder)  SHe also had to go on several tirades placing the blame soley on the person she is accusing of tipping me off to the news ( like it wasnt known anyhow) blasting her. So she dropped the whole Pious Church Lady facade real quick once I wasnt buying that either to try to make me feel sorry for her. Then going on to judge me, my life choices and my character ( i was showing my true colors) because I was standing my ground. This is delusion I am dealing with. And there is MORE where this came from too. Just alot to process just from her confrontation alone. I understand that I should have blocked her ( once again) immediately. I chose not to indulge her for most of that day..just let her show herself. I knew this battle was on the horizon coming my way no matter what. Going Grey Rock with her for years didnt end up being effective with her, since according to her reaction to me, just My going about my own business and focusing on myself really bothered her ( like with most miserable narcissisicts like herself..that drives them crazy which it did!) In summary, even keeping to myself and ignoring her drama was being used against me anyway..something was going to be, So, I thought I Might as well let the record show that I did my best to a conduct a logical adult conversation in which i stated my boundaries , my feelings and some common sense truth her way while not overexplaining myself to her I didnt fling any insults her way, didnt say I hated her, didnt even throw anything in her face including her umm career choice, DIdnt bring anyone else into it, especially DH,,just one on one to clear the air.  As predicted, she ignored all of this and still went on her rampage..she couldnt even respect my wishes that i had to reinstate a few times, to keep that conversation between me and her and not to invovle anyone else since this wasnt about them in this instance.  I had NO expectations of her otherwise, since she doesnt know how to NOT involve anyone else since that would mean leaving her to actually take full accountability for her actions without being able to pass the buck. More later on. 

I meant to add that if Blended Family Life is a "dream", ( sure) then who needs nightmares? Stephell is scary enough! 

I am still refusing to defend her decisions no matter what excuses she always comes up with..This is a whole other bombshell but she used her single mother card..Thats right...she reproduced and dropped out of high school while pregnant. Then decided  to have a second child not too long after even though she coudnt handle the one she had .  With the same Baby Daddy who  also has a criminal record and impregnated more women  too. Dont get me wrong, I have no issue with teenage Moms as long as they manage to turn things out for themselves  to move forward. My SD has yet to do that., She still hopes someone else does that work for her.., Thats why she is still pissed at me over that even though I never volunteered to help raise her children. I still stand on that,,as I told her..its never been fair to put all these pressures on me to do all this for her,..when most of the time ive been with DH she had no interest in getting close to me.. When she does, theres always too many strings attached..its the whole give an inch..take a mile situation. I always had this gut instinct that as much as she says she wants a relationship with me and her Dad but there has still been jealousy at the same time. Which i can sense....Thats been the way from the begiining. 

If I have to wager a guess, I would say that my SD and FF would make great friends. Maybe in the same Prostitution  network although I'd have no doubt if my "Pride and Joy" werent one of the ring leaders. She never keeps any friends for long, if she has any its because they have the same attitude and mindset .Maybe "doing business" together. I dont even know if SD has Only Fans or Instagram but Im certain that she is posting the same content. Maybe I dont want to know even though I had a good idea now. The state Police set up a fake meeting on social media which led to busting SD and her cronies so that kind of content had to have been out there somewhere.  The silver lining is that there are plenty of people in our area with the same last name as mine, so as far as I know it didnt get directly connected back to me. Thats the last thing anyone halfway normal should want....its so mortifying just the same since I cannot have anyone thinking I had one thing to do with Her or her upbringing. Im only hoping you get spared the same if ( hopefully not for Your sake !) FF gets into the same industry. 

WOW! ..I am so sorry that happened to you and its totally unfair.  that should not  have gotten back to you like that  Let's hope for your sake that your SKID Mark's antics doesnt made the news. I should be so lucky this just make the local circuit  and didnt grab National Headlines, so had that going in my favor. its also far from the only story about a prostitution bust..there has been others before and since. It takes a special kind of person makes  unwise foolish decision after another ( the sex worker thing is just ONE of them) , reassigning blame where it doesnt belong, she actually thinks I still owe it to her to be supportive and sympathetic and I am the problem for not wanting to be. If so, then Im OK with that!  Even though I washed my hands of her shit as much as possible a long time ago. That's the thing thats so infuriating..life is so peaceful with DH without the SD's drama..but its still unfair that even in their adult years, something still pops up every so often...