Trivial I know but so annoyed !
I have nothing to do with bm , mutual hatred.
Today I've been to see a consultant, awaiting not so great tests, and ordered dd a food delivery for our return home.
Dh failed to clarify with ss whether he will be staying or not, assumed not.
Myself and dd arrived home and awaited her food delivery. So a car pulls up and I dutifully went to door/outside. To come face to face with ss and bm. Felt surprised, awkward, upset , she obviously felt the same!
Etc etc.
I'm reading my dh the riot act tomorrow as this just compounds the ' I do not need this will they , won't they ' cr@p
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Time for a foot up DH's ass
Time for a foot up DH's ass to get his X, their spawn, and the visitation schedule under control.
I've text him
As ss is still here and equally no idea when he's leaving as its Easter. Lucky me !
BM showed up several times
BM showed up several times unannounced and uninvited. I gave her the stare down. She's a nervous nellie so after a couple stare down encounters she stopped dropping by and finally cut it out.
LOL @ the stare down...
LOL @ the stare down....Thankfully my ex's breeder knew better and didn't dare try to come inside. I would have told her to come all the way inside to clean up after her kids if she did.
Lucky for her She pulled up on the street (where she is most comfortable lol) and did not even pull into driveway.
I've done this before
That ended up with her bleating about me at mediation lol. She should be able to randomly drop things off on my dds birthday etc. Shut that down.
I just wasn't aware he was coming and not even of a mind to realise it was the same coloured car. Was not a happy bunny yesterday
It is a good thing that the
It is a good thing that the Spermidiot nor anyone else from the SpermClan ever knocked on our door. The advantages of a long distance visitation schedule.
It would have likely ended up with someone going to jail. Probably me. But maybe not. Hyper conservative county where Left Coasters do no fair well in family law cases so maybe I could have avoided a major convicition for turning the Spermidiot into fertilizer. Since even disappearing him could have been interpreted as a family law case.
Kidding or course. Mostly anyway.
Agreed!!!
Agreed!!!
For the manipulative breeders and/or Disneyland dads with loose boundaries....moving a plane ride distance away is a permanent solution to the random pop-ups, using your home as a 24/7 respite drop off, etc
For us, it was not a planned
For us, it was not a planned thing. DW moved out of State for university with SS on her hip. Just after he turned 1yo.
That is where we met. 1200 miles from SpermLand. We never moved nearer except for the 3mos we lived in Silicon Valley. Even that was 600+ miles and as lazy and cheap as the SpermClan has always been, zero chance of them dropping in.
Whne the opposition is toxic, distance is a critical success factor in the blended family universe.
Hell naw!!!
1) Hell naw!!!
2) Never assume these meddling disgruntled exes won't use your house as respite care. Assume the skid invasion every single time. Then you won't be disappointed when they randomly touchdown. This is especially if you're dealing with a Disneyland dad
I usually do
Avoid skid drop and collect time like the plague. But dh said he wasn't coming so it didn't even register that it's the same colour car or what time it was, as I'd had quite a day of it
Felt so awkward and ridiculous, I'm sure I'll get over it but fuming at the minute. Worst was ss phones started pinging straight away. So I'm sure it was bm giving it aw you poor baby, what is evil step mum doing are you ok? Bluh
The unexpected random run in
The unexpected random run in with the X, etc...
I had that. It was knee bending. About a year and a half after we moved back to TX DW, SS, and me ran into my XILs when we went out for breakfast. I stopped cold in my tracks, DW says that every ounce of color drained from my face, I introduced them, asked DW to take the toddler to our table and that I would be right in. My XFIL instantly teared up, my XMIL started the mental calculator on SS's age then started the Q&A. I had been gone for nearly 6 tears with zero contact other than the yearly birthday and Christmas cards each with $10 that my XILs sent me.
XMIL instantly attempted to get me back in the fold invoting us to their Ranch for family gatherings, holidays, etc.... Nope.
Those surprise run ins can be a knee bender.
It seems trival but it isn't.
It seems trival but it isn't. Because there are so many things we think are trival but they just continue to pile up when not addressed and addressed constantly. I feel being with my SO is like being with a child sometimes with how many times I have to tell him to stop it. Just like you would have to do with a toddler who keeps trying to put a fork in an electrical outlet.
Keep the doors lock
Don't answer the phone or read text on Fridays. BM will show up to a empty home. DH must now go food shopping and take care of Easter for SS. Put the work on DH