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Submitted by Wicked stepmo. on Mon, 06/28/2021 - 3:35am

You never, ever have shared expenses!!!!

This morning I woke up to an email for a $300 bill. SO and I have one shared account the phone bill because it was cheaper for us to combine lines. 

Well today after work I will be seperating those lines and going back under my own account. SO will be left having to pay this ridiculous bill since it's in his name. 

Apparently he took it upon himself and without the need to tell me that he re-added OSD to our account. Because we should pay for a cell phone for a girl who hasn't spoken to him in over a year and tried to have his parents arrested. 

His rationale for doing this behind my back, was he knew I wouldn't approve and he didn't want to hear about it.

My response, was good news for him. Now he will be paying that bill and any others because I am seperating our accounts today, so he can do whatever he wants and doesn't have to tell me sh$t.  

I deleted my bank account from the autopay and text him he better add his so the bill gets paid this month. 

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Submitted by Aunt Agatha on Mon, 06/28/2021 - 4:20am

What a stupid decision on your DHs part.  But at least you can protect yourself this way!

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Mon, 06/28/2021 - 4:42am

About going into his wallet taking out a substantial amount of cash and credit cards then saying "I didn't tell you that I did that because I knew it would upset you."

Bad

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Submitted by Wicked stepmo. on Mon, 06/28/2021 - 5:19am

I did that to him at Christmas. We had an argument because he threw a fit when I told him he couldn't give OSD a candle as a gift. Mind you he had already spent over $1000 in gifts on her.

Reason being she is unbelievably irresponsible and my ex's home had just burned down from a candle.

So I went into his wallet and used his credit card to buy her the most expensive diffuser and oils I could find so precious princess could have a filthy yet pretty smelling room 

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Submitted by Wicked stepmo. on Mon, 06/28/2021 - 5:23am

I also called his mother and threw him under the bus. I told her he was attempting to buy an apology from OSD to her. So ruined that for him too.

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Submitted by Kes on Mon, 06/28/2021 - 5:28am

And is this $300 the bill for ONE month?  It takes me several years to rack up those kind of charges for my phone.  Your SO must be loose in the rafters to pay this kind of bill for SD.  

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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Mon, 06/28/2021 - 7:10am

I have a top of the range plan: unlimited call, unlimited data and limited free international calls.  It costs less than a 10th of that bill pm.

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Submitted by Wicked stepmo. on Mon, 06/28/2021 - 3:44pm

Because he had her phone deactivated when he was mad after she tried to have his mother arrested. Which was supposed to be permanent.

So the carrier slammed him with all these charges to reactivate the line. 

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Submitted by The_Upgrade on Mon, 06/28/2021 - 8:45am

This is all from the guy who in your last post gave his other daughter a harsh word about them doing nothing for him for Father's day. So after he's stewed over that and licked his wounds in private he has the bright idea to throw more money at them in yet another attempt to buy love. 

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Submitted by Stepdrama2020 on Mon, 06/28/2021 - 9:30am

Oh yes. The skids know how this works. Kick daddio and daddio comes panting back like the trained puppy. 

OP smart move. Let daddio pay for the princess phone cause maybe one day she will love him back. He just needs to try harder .  Wink

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Submitted by hereiam on Mon, 06/28/2021 - 3:53pm

And when do you think that will stop? How long are you willing to put up with the behind-your-back stuff?

He shouldn't have to buy his childrens' love. They are just using him.

I don't think he is ready to be in a relationship until he gets this stuff with his kids figured out, one way or another.

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Submitted by caninelover on Mon, 06/28/2021 - 3:57pm

At a minimum he shouldn't be buying anything for his spawn with joint money.   If he wanted to do this stupid thing with his own money, well ok go right ahead.

Wicked was completely correct to remove herself from the account but this would really bother me.  More of a trust and communication issue than whatever he was doing or not doing with his feral children.

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Submitted by Wicked stepmo. on Mon, 06/28/2021 - 8:56pm

That is exactly my issue. This is not the first time so I reacted very strongly because this incident opened old wounds from when SKs were here and he would sneak around behind my back.

It's one thing for him to make stupid parenting decisions. It's something completely different when those decisions directly affect me and I am not even consulted before hand. 

It's ridiculous really that he has to fall completely flat on his face each and every time before reality sinks in.

Now I get to sit back and watch as another of his stupid decisions regarding his kids places him further in debt, especially since he obviously didn't think this through and look at the fine print of what it was really going to cost him. 

Luckily for me that was the one and only bill we shared and that was only because it was cheaper at the time to combine our accounts. But as of today I switched to a new carrier with the same service and am actually paying half of what I had paid before for two lines. So it worked out better for me.