I'd only said to myself the other day how peaceful it's been, does this mean I subconsciously materialised miss piggy myself?! Shudder.

Hardly seen ss since Xmas, their house has had cycling covid ever since. We've just this week returned to usual.

Twice already I've not been informed that ss will be dining here so I've prepared him nothing (dh works late so ss usually eats at bms first) so this evening I was already embarrassed n had to throw him a pizza in when he asked what's for tea. Yes I've disengaged but the poor kid was really hungry. 

Less than 5 mins later, ping, email from bm. She hasn't heard from dh and nor has the mediator regarding him implementing the 'action plan'. Itwasn't a plan, it was a report of the mediation dialogue. It's not binding. It didn't require a response and the mediator took her money, she's done. None of the 'actions' such as going to his football matches, being flexible for ss to come and go if he pleases  etc are relevant, as we are in full lockdown. Guess whats the only actions that's relevant and hasn't been addressed? Dh unblocking his phone for emergency use, oh and him deciding if he wishes to also use the phone rather than email for general stuff.

He'd done neither as it was obviously a trap, tonight he's panicked again saying 'I did say I'd unblock it for emergency' I said 'does her email not say it all?' Cmon why are you so naive. He said I'll tell her I'll unblock her and give her 1 strike. Fine, whatever.

Now we've got into a bad habit of letting bd5 fall asleep with me then putting her in her own bed, as I used to go to bed early, and  work early. Tonight he just gets into bed other side of her and rolls over. Im like 'oh OK shall I just sleep in her bed then? There's no room' he says if you want. So we are already back to conflict avoidance, trying to ignore or get out of dealing. I'm lay in bds bed fuming and swearing at peppa pig pictures. I hope bm texts him something really trivial tm and he learns his lesson, again. Grr