Hi Sfifer1!

honestly this is your husband fault he should not tolerate the daughter actions towards you. if the husband dont respect you? how about her? right? i can see you suffer a lot and i dont think they appreciate what you did for them. dont waste your time and energy on something not worthy, dont be depress, do something good for your self.. its about time to love your self!  

XOXO

Why would you get into a physical confrontation with a 16yr old teen? 

And Daddy snores on and on.

Wouldn't 9-1-1 and filing a police report for charges of assult be beter and more sensibily productive than swinging back at a minor?  Yeah, I read she called you a b*tch, but if your home is so out of control, why would you even begin to confront this teen? Drag your DH out of bed and 9-1-1. 

If it was you because she called you a bitch, I can see why you couldn't call 9-1-1

You have had enough? Good.
Call it quits and get divorced so you can live in a household seperate from Sleepy and Fisty Cuffs. 

You live in a household where disrespect (name calling at a minimum) and poor impulse control (physically lashing out) is a proven bad combination.

I hold adults/parental figures to higher standards of behaviour than teenagers or young children. If you saw things escalating last night, you (as the adult)  should have disengaged from the situation rather than turn your home into a boxing ring. I am not quite familiar with the process of having a civil or polite conversation where someone is called a bitch. It must have gotten heated at some point. If disrespect and rudeness are common (8 years?), someone at some time is bound to throw the first punch or swing for the first slap. All downhill from there...

If this happened in my home, you would be out at a minimum. That's if you were defending yourself.  Adults and kids doing a 'rumble in the jungle' impression doesn't wash with me. And yes, my kid would be severely disciplined too. You would be free to press charges if you wanted to and claim self-defence,  because if it was the alternate scenario and you swung first, you would definitely be in jail for assault.

Physical violence in an environment of disrespect is never and will never be a once off event. This has either happened before or it will happen again. Protect yourself while you can and act on your conclusion of "I have had enough": Get out of this situation. This is not only domestic violence, it is long term domestic abuse.

Sfifer, this has gone to the point of no return. Once physical violence comes to play all bets are off. You should have pressed charges and before it escalated you needed to wake H up and tell him whats going on. Does SD live with you? If not, at this point she should go with her mother or another family member because this is not healthy for either of you. How can you both coexist under the same roof when having fist fights, all while your H is sleeping??? This is no way to live! If there is a next time it will only get worse, remove yourself from this situation now.

Hope all works out well.

If you don't do anything to change this situation, it could end very badly for you.

You can complain on this site all you want, but until you do something to change things, it will only get worse, and you might be the one who ends up in jail or hospital.

Siemprematahari is absolutely right - when it gets physical, it's the point of no return, regardless of who started it. Be smart. This is not a Lifetime movie. Have some dignity.