It had always been unthinkable! Sacramento is a dive... depressing, ugly and repressed. But we're stuck here because of the girls and the stupid custody arrangement. Ever since I disengaged, things have gotten 100 times better! DH and I don't fight, we're more loving... and he decided it would be best for us both to move despite the CO.
It hit him one day that his business is doing terribly. And regardless of where he lives, he is losing custody. He will only see the girls every other weekend and certain holidays. He's tired of letting that rule his life. He got a great job offer where he has opportunity to climb the latter and take over his family's business one day. He is working on an arrangement with his ex as far as visitation. The only thing I don't like is that he's going to be flying out every other weekend to see the girls... can you say EXPENSIVE??? I don't mind him being gone, we will be moving where we both have family and I can hang out with them it's just all that money But at least we're moving in the right direction. I will have family nearby, he's making a better future life for us, we're getting a decent home... our home now is literally a shack. No AC, no heat, dishwasher, no garbage disposaler, 900 sq ft. With his new job, we already have a nice home and he's buying a new suv and won't be using mine anymore. We have all new furniture too!

We also told the girls about me having a baby and they're thrilled... tho SD3 isn't totally sure what's going on there.

Here's a little gossip too: DH met up with BMs fiance to discuss the CO... turns out BM is too much of a loser to pay for her own attorney when it came to the custody battle- it's been her own fiance paying it this whole time... she's been saving her money to get a boob job. Selfish beezy. So anyway, DH decides to kinda stroke the fiance's ego- since fiance doesn't want to go to court and pay 10s of thousands dollars more, and we know the BM isn't going to pay it, we are fairly certain that what he says goes (it's his money after all)... so there will be an aggrement of sorts to Dhs petition. I hope that all made sense.