Dh knows I have found a stepparenting site that I can vent to. He doesn't know my screen name, doesn't know the web address although it used to pop up on the frequently visited list so he definitely could have accessed it if he wanted to. But he's very oblivious... and that doesn't just extend to his kids... it extends to just about everything in life. He's very self centered so he could care less what others are doing. He knows that me finding this site has kept me from bitching about his kids in his face, so I'm sure it's made him very happy that he can bury his head in the sand concerning sk's and pretend everything is hunky dory. At this point, I really wouldn't care if he did know what I was saying. He's pretty well pissed me off enough now that I just straight up don't care anymore.

Mine knows. He's actually used alot of the advise on here. If someone posts something about an issue we're dealing with I show it to him, it really does help him to see that we're not the only one's with the these problems. Now does he know my screen name? Fug no! He doesn't know the name of the site either.

I ended up telling DH about it.He enjoys reading things here almost as much as I do.he said it gives him perspective and helps him realize that many of my issues are truly valid and not just me being picky.

I'm not sure.... I have not told him and if he asks me what I am doing I don't tell him "bitching about you and BM online...." but I don't clear the history religiously on my computer either so if he picked it up and was looking through he would find it. I don't know how he would feel about it. I used to belong to a different community that was more directed for not being the first spouse. He knew about that and didn't like it. I have to say, he was right because it was pretty negative and the solutions to everything were to "disengage" - which is not ALWAYS the answer - and kind of had a "poor me" attitude and I think I started to adopt it. I find this site much more productive with positive suggestions, other than Luvs's. Bleh.

No way in hell does FDH know about this site. He would be absolutely devastated if he knew I had posted anything negative about his precious darlings.

Although, I have used a few things from this site by accident:

I called him a "Disney Daddy" once.....oops.. It isn't true but the words came out when I was angry at him. I really meant "Guilty Daddy".

I almost asked him when he was picking up the "skids", but caught myself before the words were out of my mouth.

I'm sure there are more, but I can't think of them right now.

*Duplicate*

Haha wow what a mix this is. We need to do statistics on this or something...

I've mentioned the site to BF, but he never really questions me on it or gets upset. Sometimes I'll tell him about something I read that was particularly funny or distressing and we'll talk about it together. I sometimes read passages to him from Stepmonster. He finds it interesting and we usually have good talks about it (though once it didn't turn out quite so well).

DH knows I'm a member and he even asks me "how's your forum-life?" but nothing else. I know he's not interested on what I have to say here, he KNOWS I'll trash him, Skid, BM, MIL, and everything/everyone that pisses me off ....
So let's keep our relationship safe.

And I must add he even recognices that having someone to talk to and vent is a good thing, specially if I talk to someone that's going through the same kind of issues and Hs interventions are not always the best thing since they are not in our shoes.

My DH knows I am a member of several different sites...I'm lucky in that he is not my area of contention.

My DH knows and he thinks it's great since it's helped in our situation. An added perk is that anytime we're getting close to a visit from SD he'll say "I promise not to give you anything to blog on ST about." haha

The Dh Knows, It actually help us, he reads about other stepmothers and he gets a better understanding of my feelings. I don't hide anything most of the time when I write or read something, he sits right next to me anyways. Some times he asks me to read out loud,He even ask how some people are doing, how things have worked out for them.

When we first got married, we had major problems because of ss and bm, he didn't believe ss could be manipulated by bm, after reading on here and many conversations, he finally sees through her bullsh!t .It made things a lot easy-er, he is on my side now and things are good. Only problem is bm and mil.

FDH has no clue. He would freak out because he is a major disney dad - no rules, no consequences, etc. and his kids are perfect so why would I need to vent somewhere.

DH knows and he doesn't mind. I don't tell him when I blog or what I blog about, but we have talked about different situations that have been brought up on here. I have also read him some of the blogs and told him, "I will NOT put up with this". I am fortunate to have a DH who believes in disciplining his child, but there are still things he can't forsee happening since he is new to the stepparent situation too. It helps us to be more proactive and to know what to expect.

Mine knows and says if stops me from complaining to him then great! He dosen't know my name or anything, at least I hope not, but I'm pretty open with him about how I am feeling about things anyhow but the site has helped us too to see that we are not the only parents dealing with some of these issues.