BABY MAMA DRAMA!!!
Ok guys, I live with my man - he has two kids 14 and 13 (not babies) and his BM is doing all to disrupt our lives. She has another child (3 yrs)from another Father as well as My Mans two - but for some reason its my man she cant let go of.
Constant phone calls/texts daily to him for no reason - he misses half of the calls but she distresses his cell so he answers at times - remember the kids are in secondary school - daily phone calls to their daddy is not needed. She hates that he is with me, so when we moved in together she CSA'd his arse even though he was paying her the required amount and more on clothes for them.
She tries to keep him around the house when he picks up the kids to annoy me and he is so stupid he falls for it sometimes - always something she needs to talk to him about even after the 3 calls a day!!!
She has told him to leave me lol. She is money obbsessed always saying she has none but puts notes on FB claiming a years worth of TAX back. lol She has tried to switch half his family against me even tho they aint much cop themselves lol
I have nothing to do with her any more, have told her via email what I think of her but she is a coward and not retaliated. The skid daughter is now becoming a witch like her mother and not nice to have around at the weekend. Father is blind to it - u know, the sudden switch of his daughters behaviour to me from nice to offish and RUDE.
Get this, the BM boyfriend recently left her too - so she is now single with 3 kids from two dadddys.
Face like crimewatch I must add lol
Who does she think she is asking my man to join her and her ginger baby from another father on holiday. Fastey bitch - he lives with me as if he is gonna go with her. Very innapropraite behaviour!! He thinks so too, but tell her not me!
My man reckons she will be like this as long as she is living - she will never stop callin him and trying to control his life - she will continue to try and manipulate and be involved with him until the kids are weigh into adult hood.
My man needs to put her in her place to stop her being involved in our lives but he just brushes it off - most men would tell her to F off but its like he is scared or just cant be bothered with the drama that will follow. He is a gentle man with a big heart and hates confrontation. Anyone out there hear me?????
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most men would tell her to F
most men would tell her to F off but its like he is scared or just cant be bothered with the drama that will follow.
-------------> Not true, you'll find that alot of men are passive as well with their X's for fear of losing the little bit of control/time they do have over their kids.
Some men don't mind being this passive when they're single because they have noone else in their lives to take into consideration. Once they get involved, and often with many pushes from their current SO, they will gradually put their foot down. It may take you stepping back a bit so that he can see it for himself. When you're constantly nagging him about it, all he can see is your nagging and it minimizes BM's antics. (Not you specifically, a general you)
If your approach with your SO isn't working, maybe you need to try a different approach?
How long have the two of you been together and how long has he been seperated from BM?
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Thanks for your comment its
Thanks for your comment its taken on board. His BM would never stop him from seeing the children - she gets rid of them at every given opportunity, so no chance of him worrying about that. He was the one who did all the work for the kids running around after them and her, until he met me I had to tell him its not right she has a new man to run round after her. She loves to give orders!!! He has been separated from the BM for 8 years now, we have been together two years. She hates him going on holiday she hates him out of her arms reach. I think she is living in a delussional mind!
I think its all down to
I think its all down to feelings - if the BM has no feelings for her ex and is totally loved up with the new dh - then she wont give a damn what her ex is doing and we would not be on here complaining about the BM Drama. I know some baby mamas who have moved on and are happy so everyone lives happy ever after!!! Not me lol
"I think its all down to
"I think its all down to feelings - if the BM has no feelings for her ex and is totally loved up with the new dh - then she wont give a damn what her ex is doing and we would not be on here complaining about the BM Drama."
NOT TRUE!! Sometimes, it doesn't matter if THEY have moved on, they don't want HIM to have moved on...It is okay for them to be happy with someone else, but if the ex isn't wallowing in misery pining after them, they get angry. It's that whole entitlement thing. They think since they have kids with this man, they own him forever...
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Ding, Ding,
Ding, Ding, Ding!!!!!!!!!!!
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And we haaavveee a winner. I
And we haaavveee a winner. I agree completely!
DISbelief~
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sigh so true. so true.
sigh so true. so true.
I hear you and feel you loud
I hear you and feel you loud and clear Lady London!!! Join the yucky club - it bites, lol!!
Welcome to Steptalk!!!!!! HUGS
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Thanks ladies...yes am new
Thanks ladies...yes am new to this hee hee....
Anyway I do not totally agree - there are many BM's who do not want to control their ex cause they are happy with their new lives and are busy with their new familys!
think it depends on the BM, the nature of them and how insecure/pyscho they are lol. A decent BM who is conidifent and happy in her new life and new DH or BF would not be wasting half her precious time trying to reck the ex's life with his new partner.... she should just want his dollars like most of them lol
I suppose if the BM was the one who left and was not hurt then she will be easy to deal with..BUT if she is the one who was dumped by your DH she will always be in the way and clinging on like a sad fucker ....lol
It just means they have not moved on - the ones that have moved on are great!
what type of hell? she
what type of hell? she sounds like she is a bit unstable to me she must have some issues herself! Still a believer that a happy person gives happy vibes all round! So - ladies - any of you have kids from your ex - what are you like with your BF? Love to hear from ya!