So Tired Of It
Today SS11 gots his progress reports from school. Yea I know Im supposed to be disengaged, but education is important to me. So I went into his bookbag while he and darling daddy were out doing something for MIL.
Good Lord, this kid is failing english. Hmm wonde why. Is it because he struggles with the subject? Nope. Is it because the teacher is grading unfairly? Nope. Its because hes too lazy to turn in his flipping homework. Does he do his homework? Yep. Daddy darling checks it every single nigjt, because last grading period he failed because he wasnt doing it. This time around Daddy Darling checks it to make sure its done. I see him do it, so I know for sure the homework is actually getting done. THIS CHILD IS TOO LAZY TO REACH INTO HIS BOOKBAG AND TURN IT IN!!!
I swear I think the kid is doing this crap on purpose. I really do. I mean, hes in trouble repeatedly for the exact same thing over and over. Its ridiclous. How does he have zeroes for work that he is doing?
Good lord its frustrating. Daddy darling is all "what am I supposed to do?" I have no freaking clue, its not like he can ground the kid, the kid doesnt do anything. He doesnt have friends, he doesnt video games here, he doesnt watch TV, all he does is sit in room and read. Once a week he plays soccer, and once a week he goes to musical instrument lesson. He doesnt practice his musical instrument outsidenof his lesson (yep lazy strikes again), and we have to force him to go outside and play. Its ridiculous. I dunno what he should do, and Im not sure any punishment would matter.
I really think that this kid does this kind of stuff on purpose so when he gets in trouble or gets lectured, he can run back to mommy and they can over analyze the siituation and validate how much daddy hates because his daddy "isnt capable of love" no shit thats what she says, "he tries, but he is not capable of loving anyone"
GRRRRR
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Oh, yeah. The "not turning it
Oh, yeah. The "not turning it in " thang. One of my patients was just talking about her own middle-school daughter doing this. Doing the assignments, collecting everybody else's homework in class, and not turning her own work IN!!! wtf.
My SS did this and still does
My SS did this and still does it. He has Asbergers. It's part of the "no friends" thing. Social situations are awkward and stressful for him, so he prefers to avoid them. He would choose GMa's over a sleep over any day, it is less stressful.
No advice on how to solve it, we couldn't ever find anything that worked. With some time, it got a little better, but it is still bad. The only thing we found that motivated him was taking school trips abroad, and he had to earn the right to go with "good" grades- meaning nothing under a C because honestly that is the best he can do.
I don't have any kids (yet)
I don't have any kids (yet) and wouldn't do this with my step-daughter (because I am not her parent), but I know what my mom would do. Take time off work and go to class with me. She's sit right next to me and MAKE SURE I was handing stuff in. The embarrassment enough should (hopefully) get him to start doing his shit on his own. I know I wouldn't want my mom or dad attending class with me cause I wanted to act like a lazy baby. But I know in a heartbeat if I pulled this shit, this is totally what my mom would do.
I don't get kids these days. My step-daughter acts like school is no big deal. She got a C- on an English test. She's in 3rd grade. I would have FREAKED if I got that low of a grade. I used to have nightmares that the teacher calls to have homework turned in, and I didn't do mine. I would wake up in a panic! And furthermore, why isn't the teacher checking with students who don't turn stuff in? I know kids need to learn responsibility, but I feel like if you've addressed it with the teacher the your SS does in fact do his HW, then why isn't he/she asking him directly?