For those of you who also have children. How do/would you handle this type of situation?
Report cards are coming home on Wed. Which is the last day of school. How do you handle the situation when report cards are completely opposite??????
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SD11 and DD7 are completely different in school. DD is really into school and is doing good. SD11 hates school and any type of work. Whether it's school work, homework, or having to work to get better at anything, like sports, games, knitting, musical instrument, etc...If it takes any type of work or time, SD doesn't do it.
SD11 just doesn't care about school until it's time for report cards. She gets upset when DD has good grades and hers are clearly lacking due to her laziness. I feel terrible, even though SD isn't trying. I feel like I shouldn't praise DD in front of SD to spare her feelings.
How do you handle the differences in report cards? How do you deal with jealousy? Is there any jealousy?
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You praise the good and not
You praise the good and not the bad...
My parents always made sure
My parents always made sure we knew how each other did, same for my kids. I hold them to high standards and the good is rewarded bad grades are not. my kids have different punishments though dd it's money my ds it's video games. SO's kids don't get grades yet it's all success or not success they have to answer for behavior at school which has been terrible from his ds and eh from his dd. His ds almost got kicked out of kindergarten. Next year I think/hope SO is switching their school to our district.
I have 2 bio girls. One is
I have 2 bio girls. One is very smart and always got good grades with out trying. My other daughter had to struggle just to get b and c.
If you know your child is trying and their only making b and c. That could be their personal best. Not all kids are going to make the same grades.
If SD is lazy and not trying that's a different story. SD may need more one on one time.
Its important to make sure you don't make SD feel that she is less than just because she may not be as smart. Find other skills that she is good at and point those out. Let her know that all people kids and grown ups have things their really good at and it differ from person to person. Life is not all about making the grade. Its about always trying your best. And being proud that you gave it your all. Sometimes parents can single out a child just by favoring a child that is really good in school or sports. This can be very hurtful to the child that isn't. If b's are SD best and you know this then reward her for getting b's. Every person best is different.
I totally agree with you. I
I totally agree with you. I never want SD to have hurt feelings, which is why I tried to hide the good grades from her, to spare her feelings. We know that she can do better than a D. I've seen her do it. I know she doesn't care and is lazy about it, but I still feel bad when report cards come home and one has all A's and the other barely made C's and D's. Whether it's due to laziness or not, I still feel bad.
You're right. For some reason
You're right. For some reason I just feel bad. I know I shouldn't, but I do. What you described is how DH is
This. If seeing your dd
This.
If seeing your dd getting praise and reward for hard work is going to motivate her then give it a go.
Either way she NEEDS the lesson that working hard is part of life and those that do it get acknowledged and those that don't miss out. Your dd needs to learn that too, she works hard and does well and has every right not to have her kudos for that lessened because of a slacker.
There is no sparing feeling
There is no sparing feeling when you are lazy and just wont do your work! The kid that is doing what they are supposed to should get the praise they deserve it!
Your a fantastic steppie
Your a fantastic steppie
Praise the good Skid or not. If Skid wants praise, they need to put effort in then. My gf is a mother of three and her and her DH gives their kids cash for good grades. It works for that family and the parents tell their kids "the harder you work, the more it will pay".