Sunday is mothers day, and BM would like to spend the weekend with SS8. No big deal. She wants my darling partner to drive the 3.5hours it takes to get to her house, to pick him up. No chance. My partner and I have a business that gets extremly busy on mothers day, so for him to drive so far is stupid.
She moved so far away to live with her 20 something daughter and 5 year old grand daughter. (BM is 49 and my partner is 31)
BM is claiming she cant afford to drive so far, and My darling partner offered to give her petrol money, which she is currently thinking about. He is only willing to give her enough money to get her back home.
She is living with her daughter in a 2 bedroom government house, so chances are the department of housing doesnt know shes there. Shes not paying any rent and bills are extremly cheap for single parents, such as her daughter. She pulled SS8 out of schol in November to go interstate for a holiday, which lasted 6 weeks, to stay with a friend. It took us 6 weeks to organise a court hearing to get her back, which is when it was put into court paperwork that SS8 is not to be removed form the metro area. She is claiming she cant afford to live in the metrop area, as housing is too expensive. If she were to get of her lazy ass and get a job there wouldnt be an issue, as we have informed the judge assigned to us.
She has no regard for homework, and belives its the teachers job to teach him, not hers. She makes him wear second hand clothes, while she has new stuff, and lies to people about my partner.
Since SS8 has been living with us, his homewor is done every night without complaints, and he eats all his lunch. He has made a stable school friend, doesnt cry when he doesnt get his own way, has attention from my partner and myself, has started playing soccer after school and is a much happier child.
Sometimes I doubt my ability to be a parent, but I'm doing ok, even when he tests my patience. I like to think it will work in our favour, that the judge will give us full custody, but who knows.