Lately DH and I have been buying food in bulk for the girls to take back to their mom's because they text DH almost daily that there is no food in her house. SD11 says that BM will stop at the gas station on the way home from work to buy her wine and get chips and candy for SD5 to have for dinner. SD11 even said that on the one day her mother bought SD5 some Easy Mac SD11 was trying to get her to eat it before eating the cookies her mother bought her and SD5 threw the mac and cheese at her sister and grabbed the cookies and ran. BM was already asleep in her room.

DH and I were discussing how with my work schedule and his ex-wife's inability to keep it together that I have seen him for the same amount of time in the past month as his children. Literally. I have been working out of town so we haven't even slept in the same bed except for weekends, which is when we also have them. Last weekend we had a little childless time together, which he mostly spent at the office since he is busy right now.

The nanny BM recently fired called DH today. BM owes her $800 and the nanny wanted DH to pay it. DH informed her that the agreement was between her and BM and he has nothing to do with it. Upon hearing this, the nanny gets upset and starts spilling the beans on BM. She tells DH that BM said he doesn't pay his CS (lies - its garnished directly from his paycheck) and that she recently went to see a lawyer about going after him for more CS.

Ex-MIL called DH again today to discuss an action plan. DH told her that she needs to start calling CPS on BM when she knows something is going on and filing a police report and ex-MIL agreed to comply. At least in this manner, BM will be somewhat kept in check and there will be documented proof of her neglect.