I woke up this morning to find my husband gone
The account was overdrawn to the tune of $1400 and he left me here with all four kids. I called to see why he wasn't home and he said he forgot he had to do maintenance at work - he changed the password to the account thinking i couldn't check it and see just how bad it was so I called to inform him he did just that - then he admitted it - then i checked my email to find the dear john letter.
he even said in his email that he was leaving my son - the one that the adoption will be final on this month - he knew to leave him with me. Now I am left to clean up all this mess both financial and the emotional toll it took on me and will ne inflicted on them - the same man that just told my daughter that he was adopting that it was okay - she was scared he would leave like all the other "dads" (her birth father and her stepfather that was involved for a long time) and now he did just that.
he runs from his problems, i took him into m home a month before christmas two years ago - i loved him and my son and made sure my three new children all had a merry christmas, all on my dime and this is how i a repaid?
I told him I wasn't a problem that he could run from - he will pay restitution so to speak - as a matter of fact he isn't required to attend the adoption hearing, just me and my son.
Please pray for my family guys - this hurts, i am in shock. i knew our marriage was in trouble but i never thought he would walk out and leave me honestly penniless.
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You are in my prayers
Oh my goodness, honey I am
Oh my goodness, honey I am so very sorry. I don't even know what to say. We are all here for you - stay strong and I will be praying for you.
Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin
Prayers and hugs
are going out to you, sweetheart. I don't know what else to say. I cannot even imagine. Stay strong for your precious children.
"If you have never been hated by a child, you have never been a parent."
-Bette Davis
I am so sorry
That is such a cowardly thing to do, and I'm sure you are devastated. And am I reading this right that he left his three bio children with you as well? So so sorry for you.
I have a friend
who is going thru pretty much the same thing and I can only imagine the pain, stay strong sweetie for you and for you kids.
hugs xoxoxo
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."
H
Remember that you are not alone we will be there for you.
What the Crap!
I am so sorry for you... I am speechless. Will pray for you!
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I'm so sorry to hear! what a looser, to do something like this to you... I'm furious for you. Clearly he doesn't deserve you! I know I would be devastated. Are his children going to continue living with you?
Seize the moment. Remember all those women on the Titanic who waved off the dessert cart.-Erma Bombeck:
he left his bio-son, i have
he left his bio-son, i have full legal cutody to him and his BM's rights were terminated. we have a hearing this month to finalize everything with the judge and get his birth certificate reissued. I have taken care of him for two years. His BM is a drug addict. mark has always had joint custody but i felt compelled to make sure i had legal rights to him in case something ever happened to my husband. my husband also adopted my bioson and the hearing to finanlize his adoption of my daughter is in october. her dad signed away his rights, now i guess i have to tell the judge to stop this unless my husband plans on paying support that i gave up for him because he wanted to be her father.
i am in total shock but i am leaning on God. He already sent a very dear friend my way this morning - the lady i am going to surrogate for . she said she hadn't paid her tithes and she felt she hadnt so that she could help. it hurts me on no end to take help from anyone - you see i am our friend that helps other people. i just went this weekend and bought school supplies for 5 kids - one a little girl who is in a bad situation that has been my "daughter" for a while. I found out this weekend that she told everyone at the church i was her mother. i want to help others but i honestly thank GOD for him today and for my friend. I was able to close the account from future damage, re-route my check and be able to get some groceries and gas until i get paid again.
i dont know what will happen with us - he has to understand that he made the choice to leave when i needed him the most and he has to accept what comes of that. part of me wants to give him a little cash to live off of - he will most likely be staying in his truck but i cant have him here when he took off and left - left me to deal with everything again. he choose to be gone when i got up this morning, he chose to lie to me. i have wanted to leave in the past but sometimes, as my friend put it, god breaks those chains that bind you when you can't break them yourself.
thoughts and prayers!!
Im so sorry you are going through this!! When i went through my divorce i made sure to use all the support i had. Lots of friends and family!
i am so so sorry
what a poor excuse for a man---such a disgrace. we are here for u and u are in my thoughts. **hugs**
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
I'm sorry girl
I'm speechless - total disbelief. Did he give a reason for this - not that there is one. I'm praying for you.
"OCD sucks"
Habit and routine have an unbelievable power to destroy.
--Henri de Lubac
OMG I am so very sorry
How awful for you. Please feel free to contact me anytime if you need to talk. We all love you!
OMG. I am sooo sorry. That
OMG. I am sooo sorry. That is just unimaginable.
You said you are the friend that normally does the helping.. Guess those friends that you have helped now have a way of thanking you themselves by helping you out.
I am so sorry.
his reason was that he
his reason was that he couldn't deal with what he had done and he couldn't face me and be there when i did find out how much was in the account. he just messaged me about why and how did i close it - he was trying to get money in there - meaning he was trying to get a payday loan - he needs to go open a checking account - i am NOT giving him the number.
I guess I missed something
What did he do? Don't give him access to anything! Keep your head up!
That is so awful!!
What a creep! Your family will be in my thoughts.
Dawn
What a nightmare!! I am so
What a nightmare!! I am so sorry SaneOne. You are in my prayers.
My heart is with you....
My thoughts are on you and your children.
This is so horrible for all of you.
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra
TSO - do you have family or
TSO - do you have family or close friends nearby that can help you our right now? I just cannot believe that he could do this to you - I am truly at a loss for words...
Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin
Hope you got my email...
If there's anything I can do, let me know. HUGS!
♥ ANNE 8102 ♥
"I know why families were created with all their imperfections. They humanize you. They are made to make you forget yourself occasionally, so that the beautiful balance of life is not destroyed." ~ Anais Nin
Hang in there
Sorry you have to be hurt this way, I will be saying a prayer for you and your family tonight.
You WILL survive!
OMG--I am so sorry he chose to treat you and the kids this way. What a lousy human being. In the end, you and the kids will come out of this dark time stronger and happier without him.
Always look forward. *hugs!*
I'm so sorry
There is no excuse for this. You are in all our hearts and prayers, and I hope you can take some strength from us here on ST.
Wow
Unbelievable!! How can he do this?!!! I am furious to hear this and I bet you are too! I will pray for you guys honey
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin
OMG!
What a basterd! I'm glad you were able to freeze the account! You and your kids are in my prayers. If there is anything I can do I will.
He did you a favor. Don't feel bad about him sleeping in his truck or him not having money. He made his bed so let him sleep in it. I'm glad you have the kids though. They deserve better than to have a father like him.
~Don't fear the thorns among the Roses, but be greatful for the Roses among the thorns~
Please
don't give him any cash...save what you have for you and the children.
ST MAFIA - I LOVE IT - take
ST MAFIA - I LOVE IT - take em to the mattresses girls.....
Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin
oh honey
i had the exact ssame thing happen to me exept mine was a letter not an e-mail and i have no kids
i feel your pain so much but i want you to find comfert in knowing all will be ok there is light at the end of the tunnel and eventually you will look back and think thank god
if u need out pm me
I too told my dh last
I too told my dh last night.. He was shocked and surprised that a man would leave you like that and his child(ren) behind. I said, if it happened to me, I would hunt him down. DH said.. no worries, I know you would.
Seriously. If I am close to where you live, let me know and I will do anything I can to help you and your children.
What kind of person does
What kind of person does something like this? WOW! What a jerk! How old is he? 14? How can you just abandon your family because of an overdrawn account? He really needs to grow up and be a man. {{{Hugs}}}