I'd never put my money in with another person I didn't trust.

SO isn't even on my checking account. We have a separate joint account for bills that we both contribute to.

Your husband needs a swift kick..that girl could go into those accounts and drain them at any time.Why was she on them in the first place.
I don't think you can close the accounts without your H and SD signature, but you best do something real soon before it's too late..I would be more then growling ) Re grrrrrr )..my hubby has hi skids as his Power of Attorney adn executors...I have no rights..he either changes things or I am out of here..not married a year yet, sad huh?

When I divorced, I could only close my account with exh's signature bc he was on the account. It was my biz account and he had just taken $500 out of it without so much as telling me. So I had to withdraw my money and put it into a new account with just me on it.

First thing I did when ex and I separated was take all my money out of ou joint account and open my own then we closed our joint. Never again will I have a joint account or joint property with a man without a prenup. I have always been primary bread winner and will never be dependant soley on another human I just can't risk it. Remove your money open your own account and see what you can do to remove your name
from his accounts. At the least you can keep his kid from YOUR money.

I would demand he take her off the account, if he doesnt. Take all your money and put it in your OWN account. Dont give your DH access to it. No way on earth I would be funding someone else's kid and their meth addiction. Recovering, yeah whatever. Let him spend his money on this waste of space, certainly shouldnt be coming from your own pocket.

A few questions:

1. Do you put money into that account? If not, get YOUR name off the account. Why? Because if the crazies overdraw the account or anything else, who knows if the bank would make you liable since they are all worthless.

2. If you do put money into the account, then stop putting money in that account and take your name off it as well. Have your own bank account and nothing else.

3. I would then demand that your DH put money in an account for just the two of you in case either of you has an emergency and he can leave his old account with all the crazies on it. If he's not willing to even do this, he cares more about those losers than about his wife...and I would honestly be a bit worried as to why a husband worries more about an ADULT SKID than his wife...what's going on there?

Take half out and open up your own account. Hell no on this one...My DH and I have one joint account and that is it. I will not put him on mine...The joint one is for savings...

I can not believe you would be added to an account that had a stepchild on it...You are putting your own credit at risk if she bounced anything in that account.

Meth is a strong addiction but can be kicked.

My God she is the last person you would want to have access to your bank accounts, I think you should say that unless he removes her name from them, you will remove your name and your funds from them. As simple as that, its your money and your decision, you also have to be legally clear as to what happens should you or your Husband pass away, you would'nt want her to get hold of your money would you?

Wow! I think I'd be doing likewise too, in that situation. Only one time has DH given SS money without telling me...it cost him the (and it was on the list of things to get) replacement diamond for my engagement ring. He could have kept that 'on the list' since we were together and it was a want rather than a need LOL but I hastened the purchase as 'amends' for not consulting me on a big sum going out. DH has never done that again!

If you are putting any money into those accounts STOP. Tell your DH until her name is removed, you will have a separate account. Open your own bank account. Withdraw half the funds from each of the three accounts and put the money into your own account.

If your husband is supporting you then withdraw a suitable amount weekly from these accounts and put it into your account.

Then see how long it takes for your husband to take action. Once YOU start milking his accounts it will be different. Sd milks them, it's ok. You do it and its a wake up call.

He is setting you up for a life of poverty should he die before you and he would rather do that than risk sd not talking to him.

He if he is too scared to get sd to take her name off the accounts, simply open new accounts in both your names, transfer the money into the new accounts and leave a couple of cents in the old accounts if necessary to keep them open if he cannot close them without her signature. That we she needs to know nothing. But this situation HAS to change. He won't do it if you continue to nag but do nothing anyway. So you need to take action. Don't be scared.

Please don't be offended but I had to read your post several times because I couldn't believe what I was reading. Then I had to re-read the part about you being lied to over a few more times. Why would anyone have access to money or even an account when they don't contribute to the account. What is going on here? I mean I'm really shocked and I hope you don't find me to be rude but this is outrageous. I wonder what the reasoning is behind this. If the kid needs $20 here and there thats understandable but to just be able to go to the bank and take what she wants at will? Sounds really scary to me. You know, I have a couple of great SS and I would trust them with our money but I still wouldn't want them on our accounts. SD is a different story. I wouldn't give her access to two nickels to rub together. I feel bad for you. I'm having a hard time trying to come up with a good excuse to give an ex drug addict (even some kid who isn't an ex drug addict) access to your accounts, private and joint. Well, I hope your DH wakes up, starts telling you the truth and eliminates this kid from yur accounts. Good luck to you.