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BM texting at 6:00 am REALLY!!!

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Submitted by tankh21 on Fri, 12/01/2017 - 6:21am

BM just texted my DH asking him if he is taking the skids this weekend. #1 It's not an emergency so why are you texting at 6:00 am in the morning that could've waited until a few hours later. #2 Look at the freaking CO and the calendar it's the first weekend of the month. I loathe her existence. She has been quiet for awhile but now she is starting up her crap again I guess. DH talked to SS however, he was in the living room when I woke up this morning. So I am going to have to make it uncomfortable for him I guess.

DH going to talk to SS today.....

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Submitted by tankh21 on Thu, 11/30/2017 - 7:01am

DH has the skids this weekend since it's the first weekend of the month. DH is supposed to talk to YSS about sleeping in his room but, TBH I really don't think that he is going to take DH seriously so I think I am going to listen to you guys and make it uncomfortable for him to even want to sleep in the living room. DH will stick to his guns for a little awhile then let the skids get back into their old habits. I know that it takes time and being a blended family can be very challenging. I want the skids to be comfortable in our home because it is their home as well.

So....I talked to DH last night.....

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Submitted by tankh21 on Tue, 11/28/2017 - 6:08am

So....I talked to DH last night about the YSS living room situation and explained to him that the living room is a family room and everyone should get to enjoy it so regardless if SS doesn't like his room he needs to suck it up. We agreed to paint the wall the color he wants and that was it. No new furniture. We got both of the skids new smart TV's for their rooms to solve the fight problem with the living room TV and Xbox situation as well. Well of course YSS was upset that we didn't ask him what he wanted to Christmas and just went ahead and got him a TV.

YSS and living room saga.....

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Submitted by tankh21 on Mon, 11/27/2017 - 6:52am

I hope everyone had a good Thanksgiving...Still having problems with YSS but, that will probably never get any better. YSS told DH that the only way he will sleep in his room is if we completely redo everything in there. What I mean by redo is painting the walls, buying a new bed etc. DH told him that wasn't happening. YSS completely takes over my living room still. When I say anything to DH about it he just looks at my puzzled and says that I should just let it go.

YSS drama

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Submitted by tankh21 on Fri, 11/17/2017 - 1:17pm

YSS ignored me when he came over last night and the only thing that he said to me was to get my dog away from him. I decided not to say anything to him or DH because what good would it do then all of the sudden when he wants something he starts talking to me. He does this often and I am actually sick of it. Should I talk to DH about it or should just disengage and ignore SS.

Thanksgiving break OH JOY!!!

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Submitted by tankh21 on Tue, 11/14/2017 - 6:18am

DH has the skids this coming up weekend plus all next week and then the weekend after for Thanksgiving break. OH JOY!! DH doesn't leave them alone in our house at all since they aren't mature enough and they fight. After all of the fights about them especially lately I am trying not to make them my problem. However, DH doesn't have a babysitter for Thanksgiving break and he doesn't have a plan yet as to who is watching them for those 5 days. This is the kind of crap I am talking about and that is why I am trying not to make these kinds of things my problem.

The solution....

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Submitted by tankh21 on Tue, 11/07/2017 - 7:00am

So DH and me sat down and had a talk. He told me that I am the kid's stepmother and I can discipline his kids if it needs to be done. I told him that the problem is that he needs to discipline them and teach them respect. He said that he is going to try harder. When the skids started fighting this weekend and I just sat back and didn't say a word and let them deal with it. I am thinking if I continue to disengage then DH will step up. It's worth trying.

Yesterday...

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Submitted by tankh21 on Thu, 11/02/2017 - 7:00am

So yesterday afternoon I hadn't called or texted DH then he tells me that he loves me. So I guess he was over everything. I get home and he is acting like nothing is wrong. I didn't say anything. He asked me why I was so quiet. I said you haven't spoke to me in two days so I don't know what to say. He said well I am over it. I just went into the bedroom and started putting up my clothes and he said that we needed to go to COSTCO. I am like well we need to talk about what happened and what is going to happen between us. He said that was fine we could.

Please help....

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Submitted by tankh21 on Wed, 11/01/2017 - 9:17am

So at this point I don't know how much longer I will be married to my DH. I asked him if he was ok if I spent some time away from him and the skids so that we could both be comfortable and take a break. He accused me of cheating and said that if I don't want to be in this marriage anymore then I just should say so. This is not the case at all. I just wanted a break and to give him a break and so he can spend one on one time with his kids. This happened over this past weekend.

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