BM never wants to read the CO or even follow it for that matter. She wants DH to do things to her advantage and DH used to let her until I came into the picture and started pointing out all the things that she does and tries to do to DH. Here is my thing this is probably a stupid question but does DH have to notify BM that he is having surgery because I will be the one picking up the skids for the weekend and dropping them back off since DH will not be able to drive. To me it is none of BM's damn business but I am wondering if that is something that DH should let her know.

So DH is set to have shoulder surgery on August 18th and he will not able to do anything with his right arm because it will be in a sling for 3 months. As many of you know my YSS has ADHD and no impulse control. I am worried that SS will try to hang on DH like a little monkey like he always does. DH will tell him that it hurts his shoulder when SS tries to climb on him. So now SS needs to understand that he cannot hang on DH at all now. I know he will try even after DH has explained to him that he cannot but like I said he has no impulse control.

So BM sent DH a letter that was notarized and sent certified stating that she wants to have her 21 day stay for the summer from July 20th until August 9th. Then she texts last night asking DH if he is coming to pick up the skids this weekend. Ok BM really!!! So DH took a picture of the letter and sent it to her in a text message. I mean either she is just that stupid and forgot that she sent the letter or she just thinks that she doesn't have to follow the CO and can do what she wants and DH has to bend to her whims like he did in the past. It's like clock work though.

So I am arguing with my DH surprise, surprise and he feels that you should pay yourself first and then pay the bills. I say the opposite pay the bills first and whatever money you have left over you put into savings. What do you think and what has been working for you?