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Got what I wanted, is it too late???

Struggling stepmum's picture

Submitted by Struggling stepmum on Tue, 08/06/2013 - 10:16am

SD going back to BM n a strop has woken H out of his coma! He keeps saying I can't believe I nearly ruined our marriage over her brattiness! Music to my ears you would think?? No!! I don't really care. I just can't seem to drop back into happy wife mode. Case of be careful what you ask for I think !!!!

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Onefootout's picture

Submitted by Onefootout on Tue, 08/06/2013 - 10:31am

Well, isnt that nice. Your DH needs to acknowledge the pain he caused you and take ownership of his role in almost ruining your marriage.

It seems like some people think they can finally realize the hurt they've caused and once that happens everything should be okay. It takes time to recover and build up trust again.

Perhaps your DH is wrong. Perhaps he didnt NEARLY ruin a marriage, perhaps he already ruined it. He's assuming your marriage isn't ruined. He dug himself into a pretty big hole and it may take time to dig himself back out.

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Tue, 08/06/2013 - 10:40am

Good luck on that one. I find most guilty daddies who sacrifice the SM at the altar of guilt will, in the final outcome, not admit that they did anything to wreck the relationship. They will instead blame it on SM. First the "pining" after their precious angel will come and then when the PAS out is complete then it will all be blamed on SM. Been there, done that, burned the t-shirt.

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Submitted by princessmofo on Tue, 08/06/2013 - 10:42am

"I find most guilty daddies who sacrifice the SM at the altar of guilt will, in the final outcome, not admit that they did anything to wreck the relationship." That about hits the nail on the head there. Sounds like my dh. They must have some super-secret playbook they all read from.

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Submitted by Struggling stepmum on Tue, 08/06/2013 - 1:45pm

Oh he recognises his guilty parenting all right. And to be fair after the initial hostility ( see previous blogs) he hasn't once blamed me. He has been tossed aside by her now he is no longer useful. I think he just feels hurt and stupid that he didnt see it coming. But like I told him. Don't trust her or expect much from her, just love her she is still your girl. But she is not mine. And life is a million times better now.