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Submitted by sterlingsilver on Fri, 09/07/2012 - 3:51pm

This morning I was thinking about my situation with ss15. If you read my previous post he was way out of line the other day with (almost) assualting me. He is 6'3" and I am almost a foot shorter and about 100 lbs less so he could technically take me out if he got angry enough. (he's a wrestler and football player)

ss15 is going to be the end of my marriage yet

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Submitted by sterlingsilver on Tue, 09/04/2012 - 2:28pm

So just about an our ago ss15 comes into the house like a pathetic lost dog. He promptly goes to the back fence to cut lock off that I had just put on b/c he left the gate open earlier and I had just spent an hour running after dogs who'd escaped. Ss15 was in the kitchen heating up leftovers and I said he better be careful when he is having sex with his 19 yr old gf. He said he didn't know what I was talking about but his face got red. I said my son told me that he'd asked him to buy condoms a couple weeks ago for him right when his 19 yr old gf just got home from holidays.

LONG summer

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Submitted by sterlingsilver on Mon, 09/03/2012 - 5:05pm

This has seemed like a long summer. I cannot wait for WEDNESDAY and school starting! SS15 should have been in football practice for the past couple of weeks but he broke a bone and doc hasn't signed off on him going back to practice yet. ARG. This kid is eating us out of house and home almost literally. I just wish his dead beat bm would pay her child support. My cs is going towards ss15 for school clothes and supplies this year. Makes me feel so resentful Sad

I suggested therapy

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Submitted by sterlingsilver on Mon, 08/27/2012 - 10:03am

Well last night I finally suggested therapy for ss15 to dh. His response was "I am too tired to discuss this tonight, *sigh*. He had therapy when the divorce first happened. School is starting soon and he can talk to the counselor there".

I'm seething tonight

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Submitted by sterlingsilver on Thu, 08/23/2012 - 11:11pm

Every single time I disengage from ss15, dh has a fit. I got home from work this afternoon and there was sitting ss15 still in the saem place on MY couch playing xbox, all around him are dead batteries, empty cups and bowls and STINK. He hasn't showered in a week and all he ever does is eat junk food that I have bought with my own damn hard earned money. So when I say to him he needs to get int to see the doc so he can get a release letter so he can get his ass into football, he storms out of the house. He texts his dad that I am yelling at him.

Strike proposal!! lol

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Submitted by sterlingsilver on Sun, 08/19/2012 - 6:06pm

Here's what I am thinking after reading some recent posts. So when a father and mother are married and have kids they usually work out a schedule to watch the kids and work. Like dad works nights and mom days or they put the kids in daycare or grandma's house. This is how it works in a non blended home right?

Ok, so then it all changes when there is a divorce; what should happen is still the father and mother should work out a schedule so that the kids are with mom on the days she doesn't work and dad on the days he doesn't work, or the kids get put into daycare.

why should I make him feel like he counts when he just craps on me?

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Submitted by sterlingsilver on Tue, 08/14/2012 - 11:58pm

SS15 is so rude to me and then still expects me to include him in my "affections" like I do with my own children. The other day he said to dh, how come her boys count to her but not me?" I have been trying to disengage gracefully but he drives me nuts so then I blow it by snapping at him. Tonight I got home late with my one meal of groceries and he jumps up to see what I bought. I said "I don't need any help making supper (in other words get out of the kitchen) and he slammed down his remote and went to bed.

nocturnal

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Submitted by sterlingsilver on Tue, 08/07/2012 - 4:49pm

I've been noticing ss15 is becoming more and more nocturnal. He is up all night alone doing his own thing and sleeps until I leave for work at 3:30. I like that he is out of my space but it also bugs me. I don't like teens much, my own are ok, but when they're not mine it's just down right annoying as hell. They are so selfish, all they want is food, a phone, tv and privacy. DH and I work our asses off for these ungrateful boys. I am tempted to buy food one day at a time from now on. Stop on my way home to buy dinner!

yours versus mine

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Submitted by sterlingsilver on Mon, 08/06/2012 - 2:12pm

I don't know, maybe I am just a whiner, but this always BUGS the crap outta me. Every time something happens with one of the kids my DH is always quick to point out it was one of my kids that did it, or if it was obvious it was his kid he's always defensive. Not in a big bad way but rather in the small nit picky things, ie. I heard doors slamming at 3 am and I got up and both of my boys were sound asleep but ss15 was still up. I told him to go to bed and quit slamming doors b/c dh and I have to work early in the morning.

a cranky day

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Submitted by sterlingsilver on Thu, 08/02/2012 - 4:15pm

I just got back from buying some things for my 2 bs. Yesterday dh bought a case of top ramen and a case of water for the kids and ss15 ate and drank it ALL during the night (like he's in a compatition to not let my boys have any, but my boys don't give a rats ass b/c that's not how they are). So this morning I went out and bought a few things for my boys and put it into their rooms for them. I never do this, I always buy fairly and equally and so does DH, but I got my panties in a bunch this morning and said to hell with ss15, I am going to spoil my boys for a change.

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