I'm seething tonight

Every single time I disengage from ss15, dh has a fit. I got home from work this afternoon and there was sitting ss15 still in the saem place on MY couch playing xbox, all around him are dead batteries, empty cups and bowls and STINK. He hasn't showered in a week and all he ever does is eat junk food that I have bought with my own damn hard earned money. So when I say to him he needs to get int to see the doc so he can get a release letter so he can get his ass into football, he storms out of the house. He texts his dad that I am yelling at him. Then when he gets back I spray down the coffee table, and stack his dishes and asked him to please put them into the dishwasher and wipe things down and he storms off again. I just took my son to McD and then to Walmart to buy, guess what? damn groceries. But when I got home I put everything away instead of cooking supper b/c guess what? my dresser drawer was emptied all over the floor and when I asked ss what he was thinking snooping in my drawers he said he needed more batteries. OMFG. Needless to say I did not and will not cook for that brat again and as far as I'm concerned I am done with that brat - he can go live with his damn mother. OH and dh calls me telling me that my boys don't do this and that and the other thing, and I shouted that at least my boys don't piss in the god damn kitchen sink and he was well your boys this and that. Then he texts me and says he still loves me. go to hell

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i would break his fucking

i would break his fucking arms if he went thru my dresser drawers, hell break his legs, too so he can't walk into your room.

honestly, i really don't know what i would do, since the above is punishable by law. i would for sure put a dead bolt on my bedroom door. and if your dh is not going to do something about this, you may need to rethink your living arrangement ~ i can't see this brat getting any better and it could possibly escalate to violence - maybe get some pepper spray, too.

Actually I am angry at my dh.

Actually I am angry at my dh. All I ever hear from im is "relax" and "treat the boys equally" and "my kids should count too" and on and on. I am now wondering why the hell I even married him.

Treat them equally? Does he

Treat them equally? Does he realize what you'd do to your own kid if he acted like that? Most women would Gibbs-slap their birth sons into next week for acting that way - we are sooo much nicer to stepkids. Not that anybody gets any credit for it.

^^^this^^^. i told sd once

^^^this^^^. i told sd once when she was on her one of her guilt trip rages against me that if she wants me to be a "mother" to her, she has to take the bad with the good. she isn't going to get all my money and attention and everything roses and sunshine but not be put in her place when she steps out of it. i made it very clear to her and fdh both that equal treatment meant EQUAL to me, and that means the same rules, consequences and expectations that i have for bd. that didn't work for them , i guess. might explain why she barely made it thru high school and my kid is an honor student and why she is planning to raise a baby on welfare at 20, my 17 year old high school junior is already making plans for college. (shrug). sucks to be sd!

Like bi, I am just going to

Like bi, I am just going to remember that my boys are going to more then likely make more money and do better in life in the long run then any of my skids. Right now ss15 is in football (well currently he is not b/c last spring in march he broke his collar bone and dh is just not getting him in to the doc to get the signed letter for the school to ok him playing but of course it's not dh's fault it's taken 5 monts to get healed and get the letter, it's doc's fault for being on vacation the past two weeks - when I asked dh to take ss a month ago he was too busy etc. and now when I remind him he yells at me and reminds me I am the stupid one forgetting the doc's on vacation - urg) and so dh keeps saying my boys are lazy and his is at least in sports. My boys aren't cut out for football but it's all about football for dh b/c he was a coach for many years too. My boys are very skinny and my youngest is quite nerdy, ss15 is all bulk and no brains. Ss18 is once again out of work and sd27 is prego and not married and trying college, so I will just let things go. No parent ever wants to believe that their kids are not doing the best ever. No one, not even smoms can point out the obvious. BUT we have always had a pee on and in everything issue with ssons. Both of them have peed in bottles and stored them under their beds, and other places in the ouse, they have peed on my porch and deck and into bathroom sinks, kitchen sinks and rarely ever pee in the toilet without leaving splashes all over. Dh's male shitzu had a pee problem too. I just HATE pee b/c it gets so smelly.

Thx dtsyblnd! I have ss15

Thx dtsyblnd! I have ss15 cleaning his room today. I also told dh that I am now taking control of the computers and xboxes in this house! I also only buy food that is healthy and only one day's worth at a time. Last week I bought a huge 20 count box of microwave popcorn and dh went to have some last night and it was all gone, he went to ss's room and there sat 20 half empty bags on his floor. DH flew into a rant and thus the room being cleaned today and no more xbox and computer! haha! I am making progress but it is SLOW but it is also b/c of this site that I am able to put bounderies into place not only with skids but also dh and even my own kids! I love this site!

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