I don't know, maybe I am just a whiner, but this always BUGS the crap outta me. Every time something happens with one of the kids my DH is always quick to point out it was one of my kids that did it, or if it was obvious it was his kid he's always defensive. Not in a big bad way but rather in the small nit picky things, ie. I heard doors slamming at 3 am and I got up and both of my boys were sound asleep but ss15 was still up. I told him to go to bed and quit slamming doors b/c dh and I have to work early in the morning. This morning DH mentions he heard doors during the night, I explained things to him and he said he heard my son on the phone so it must have been my son, not his. All the bowls were missing the other day when we wanted to scoop icecream, he mentioned he'd noticed my son eating cereal, but then when I go upstairs to "toss ss15's bedroom" I find several bowls tucked under his desk, but dh says he found at least one in bs's room. He is always defensive over the little things. I understand ss15 is his youngest and he has a special place in his heart for him, but please admit when your kid does something that's not allowed and don't always point out my boys' faults to cover up your own kids' faults. UHG I hate te constant nit picking and defensiveness.