I am so hurt and confused by the same token. I have been married for 6 years and I have to Boys of my own ages 2 with my husband and a 13 yr old from my prev. relationship. He has 1 boy age 8 and 1 girl age 10 and Their mom that always seems to be part of the root of the problem. Since I met him I have had issues with the Bio Mom. When I gave Birth to my soon to b 3 year old son, she NEVER let me see his kids again, so I really have'nt seen them since. I used to see them every single weekend and the loved me I mean they loved me! Me and my husband would often fight about their mother or have arguments and yes sometimes they would hear but not on purpose. I have loved them as I have loved my husband but it seems as though their mother has turned them against me the time I have not seen them, she tells my husband he is not allowed to have them around me because we fight too much and because I don't love them. He has listened so far and because of so much Drama I separated living quarters from him now for about 1 year but he always is over my house. We planned a trip to the beach on Sunday and I was so excited that I would see them on and off my husband has said to me to try to hurt my feelings that they hated me and were scared of me, I brushed it off because I NEVER did anything for them to be scared of me....Well let's just say my heart crumbled to pieces when he picked them up w/o me and he called to say he had to return them home because they did not want to see me....My step daughter had told him, she may love u but she does not love us! take us alone or leave us with our mom, I don't want to see her. I was crying and destroyed. I told him it was his fault for allowing the mother to brain wash them against me and his fault for maybe talking or not talking of me. Now what happens....? I told my husband that we would NEVER b ok because now for real his kids which are his life and control EVERYTHING literally hate me. He comforted me but I dont see that there is a remedy to this situation. Do I just let him and the thought of ever seeing them or being a family go? I very much dislike this situation because my situation with my other son's father was clear n cut no BS because I did'nt want drama like I now have with my husband. please help.