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So very tired...

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Submitted by notmyfirstrodeo on Sat, 03/22/2014 - 12:58am

And I let DH know tonight. When I left the house and DH with SD9 to pick up BS14 and BS12, it was blatantly obvious I was upset. Yes DH complains about his 20 min trip into town to pick up SD9 and doesn't even think about the fact that I drive 3 hours to get my kids. And I never complain. Not once. And as I'm leaving, DH and SD9 are eating the dinner I cooked with SD9's retainer sitting on the table (even though I've asked her a thousand times to put it in it's case and in the bathroom during dinner. Who wants to look at that crap while they eat?).

Just tired.....

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Submitted by notmyfirstrodeo on Fri, 03/14/2014 - 9:41am

It's that time of year again. Spring Break!!! Last year at this time, we were heading out to Delaware to see my grandson for the first time. It was an exciting time. This year, not so much. BS14 and BS12 are going with BF to their family lake house. I'm really excited for them. They will have a blast.

SD9 will be coming to our house for the week and DH has done nothing to plan for it. I know he expects me to plan his week with her and to make sure she will be entertained but I hate to say that is not going to happen.

Why can't DH be a parent?

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Submitted by notmyfirstrodeo on Sun, 02/16/2014 - 11:41pm

So since our court date in September when Sd9 and BM falsely accused BS14 and BS12 of crap I can't even repeat, DH has refused to talk to SD9 about it. And since I obviously don't want to have anything to do with her and I won't let her have anything to do with my sons, the poor girl is isolated when she comes for her visits. And according to DH that makes me the bad guy. I've spent almost 51/2 years trying to get through to SD9 with no luck. Then she drags me and my kids through the mud in court and I'm supposed to let it go because she's just a kid and I'm the adult? I don't think so.

Disengagement failure

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Submitted by notmyfirstrodeo on Sat, 12/21/2013 - 12:15pm

So upset with myself right now. I was doing so well with the disengagement since the court date. Then yesterday, BM again misinterpreted the visitation schedule to her benefit and DH didn't get to pick up SD9 until this morning - although the papers clearly state Friday at 6 pm. And of course, DH was furious, ranting and raving. Throwing out all kinds of threats of finally standing up to her. Got my blood pressure all raised and excited that he may finally have had enough.

I just don't know if I'll ever be able to trust or like her again

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Submitted by notmyfirstrodeo on Thu, 11/21/2013 - 2:49pm

Since our court date in September when SD9 and BM insinuated that BS12 and BS14 were having inappropriate contact with SD9, I just haven't even wanted to be around SD9. I honestly don't want to have anything to do with her. I thought time would heal some of the hurt I feel. But I don't think it's just the hurt from the lies that were told, it's the mother bear in me wanting to protect my kids. I don't care that she's only 9. All it takes is one false accusation and my sons' lives would forever be changed.

F u and the horse your mother sent you on!!!

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Submitted by notmyfirstrodeo on Fri, 09/27/2013 - 8:48pm

So, this is day 1of visitation since both BM and SD9 lied to the judge in court and insinuated that my sons were either physically, emotionally or sexually abusing their stepsister. I did everything I could to make it less volatile. I sent DS14 and DS12 to their dads and I stayed away from the house as long as I could. I invited out of town guests to stay with us this weekend to serve as a buffer for the anger I have. And still, I come to my home - and when I open the garage - who is standing there? SD9!!!! R u an F*ing idiot? I told you I don't know how I'll feel when I see her.

I'm done!!

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Submitted by notmyfirstrodeo on Thu, 09/19/2013 - 9:54pm

Today in court BM and her attorney kept referring to my sons BS14 and BS12 as those "teenage boys". I couldn't figure out what the point was. Yes, they are boys and yes, they are teenagers. Then the picture came all together, the nausea set in and the want to run from the courtroom hit. BM decided to allow SD9 to testify. Btw, we were only there for a change in visitation. Not to fight for custody. Anyway, SD9 testified that BS14 and BS12 are constantly in her room and she doesn't like it. This was a total lie. Or should I say - a fabricated statement provided by BM and her attorney.

BM finally showed her colors

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Submitted by notmyfirstrodeo on Thu, 07/25/2013 - 6:51pm

We had a court date today and our attorney has told us for years to just be patient because BM will someday show her true colors for the world (or at least the judge) to see. Well today was the day. BM acted like a total cocky *itch on the stand. When asked if she believed it was important for SD9 to have extra visitation time with DH, her response was (more than once) "no, because that takes time away from me." I looked around to make sure I heard her right. I think the judge was doing the same thing. OMG!!!!

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