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notmyfirstrodeo's picture

Submitted by notmyfirstrodeo on Sun, 02/16/2014 - 11:41pm

So since our court date in September when Sd9 and BM falsely accused BS14 and BS12 of crap I can't even repeat, DH has refused to talk to SD9 about it. And since I obviously don't want to have anything to do with her and I won't let her have anything to do with my sons, the poor girl is isolated when she comes for her visits. And according to DH that makes me the bad guy. I've spent almost 51/2 years trying to get through to SD9 with no luck. Then she drags me and my kids through the mud in court and I'm supposed to let it go because she's just a kid and I'm the adult? I don't think so. Grow a pair of balls and tell the lying brat why no one wants to have anything to do with her.

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Disneyfan's picture

Submitted by Disneyfan on Mon, 02/17/2014 - 6:39am

You stayed with him after this happened to your sons???
A good lie good lie could have ruined their lives.

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Mon, 02/17/2014 - 7:46am

So since our court date in September when Sd9 and BM falsely accused BS14 and BS12 of crap I can't even repeat
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I would be DONE DONE DONE!!

Get your kids out of this mess TODAY!

This is going to ruin your kids lives.

Azure's picture

Submitted by Azure on Mon, 02/17/2014 - 7:58am

Dealbreaker. That lie could have absolutely ruined your son's lives. They go to school and will one day have jobs in your community and they could have been falsely labeled. That would have been devastating. And then your son's would have to live with that the rest of their lives. Your DH needs to man up and straighten this out.

Our BM tried that with regard to my older bioson. Had DH not squashed it right then and there I would have left DH simply to protect my son. To this day my son has no idea she tried to go down that road. I don't ever want him to have that eating at him that someone falsely accused him of something so horrible.

And, I promised myself if BM or SD EVER uttered those words again, I would be gone whether DH stood up for us or not. NOT WORTH IT.

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Submitted by hereiam on Mon, 02/17/2014 - 8:12am

BM has always had a habit of falsely accusing people of things and when SD22 was younger and visiting, I was worried BM was going to have SD accuse DH or I of something. I told my husband, first hint of that crap and SD will not be visiting anymore, end of story.

Those kind of lies are nothing to play with.

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Mon, 02/17/2014 - 9:57am

Expecting a bio parent to keep his child out of his home in order to protect his stepkids isn't very realistic. In a case like this, each parent has to do what is necessary to protect his/her bio kids.

For me that would mean ending the relationship. No man is worth your child ending up labeled a sex offender.

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Mon, 02/17/2014 - 11:58am

And I have to tell you...anyone that EVER hears about the SD saying this about your kids...will wonder if it is true.

It does not matter if SD comes out and says I lied...people will still wonder.

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Submitted by IslandGal on Mon, 02/17/2014 - 8:10pm

Holy what!! Ask your weakass DH how he woulda felt if the shoe was on the other foot? What would he have done if your boys accused HER of the same thing? Bet he would've expected you to rip them a new one - or he'd be packing his bags to protect his precious.

I would've been outta there quick smart - but that's just me. You do what you gotta do and protect your boys.

Do NOT let DH make you feel guilty - the twit should be kissing your toes for staying with him!