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The Alpha Female

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In reading a post last week about how some of our SD's are so clingy to their BD's. I have been thinking about it constantly wondering how to effectively put a stop to the competition for him that SD seems to be doing. I was more aware of things she does after reading a link that a poster shared. I can't find the post to reference it.

What's your policy on skids access to your home?

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Does anyone have an open door policy for skids to come by when you or your DH/SO are not home? I don't know if it's just me but I never did with my own bios until they were older. When they were younger if they forgot something they would check with me or my ex. If either of us or their SM wanted to we would take them by to pick up whatever they forgot. This was only once in a while though. I would never just take my kid to their bio dad's to pick something up unless they got permission. Most definitely if they weren't home. My ex did the same.

BM is crazy!!!!

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SD21 is 5 mos pregnant right now. Last week she was having some pain and decided to go to ER so she asked her mom to take her. SD21 called SO and told him about it she said it was probably nothing but she was worried and was going. He says he keep me posted on everything love you. Easy peasy right????

Try to do something nice....

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SD has been wanting her nails done for a long time. SO and BM decided that when she was 13 she could get them done. So I figured her BM could take her kinda like a mom and daugther date. Well turns out SD wanted me to take her and I thought it was nice so I told her for her we would go and both get our nails done.

So her bday was last week and we were busy all week so I scheduled it for the next week she was with us. No big deal right??

SD needs to go to school!!!

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Does anyone else have trouble with the BM not sending skid to school?? Or always picking them up early because they are sick??

SD used to pull this with SO all the time he finally wised up to it and stopped buying into it. So miraculously SD stopped trying to stay home sick every morning or calling him to pick her up from school because she was sick.

Just have to vent!!!!!

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I know we all deal with this crap all the time!! But it just pisses me off so bad that BM gets an outrageous amount of money every month!! Yet whenever SD needs anything she comes to us to ask for it. Then SO sings the gulty daddy theme song "my child will not go__________" hungry, cold,you name it!!

SD's Birthday...........

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So SD had a birthday last week. We had been planning a party at the skating rink. Well it turns out that she was fighting with her friends so she was really sad that she would have no one at her party. So I decided to just invite family to our house so she would have some type of celebration for her bday. I go out and get decorations send SO to get the cake and her new phone (which was the gift from SO and I) invite the family get everything ready to celebrate. I felt bad for the kid because she was fighting with her friends so I wanted to make it nice.

Phone call from SIL

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Just got a phone call from SIL. SD21 is living with her and SO's brother right now. SD21 had a fight with her BM and moved in with her in-laws. Then she had a fight with the in-laws and moved in with SD23 then had a fight with her. I am sensing a pattern here :O So now she is living with SIL and BIL. Big surprise NOT!!!

Planning a Bday party for SD..............

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So I have been trying to get SD to finally commit to what she wants to do for her birthday. It is coming up in a couple of weeks. Last week I told her to let me know so I can plan if she didn't let me know then we would do nothing. She is a typical kid she has these big ideas of her bday bash but no idea how to make it happen. So we talk about things and come up with a plan. She wants to have a party at the Skating rink. No big deal I call and get details and its about 15.00 per child with a minimum of 10 kids.

Nice weekend:)

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I hope everyone is having a great weekend !! I had a nice one SD12 has been gone all weekend }:) She spent the night with BM Friday night they had plans to pick up a friend and SD wanted to go. Then she went to a friend of ours on Saturday and stayed over there last night. SO is picking her up in a couple of hours so I got a skid free weekend Smile

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