It has been another spell of no contact between my husband and his son again. His son's mom has apparently moved out of her mom's house because of covid and her mom having underlining health conditions. His son's mom works as a respiratory therapist so it makes sense. His son still lives with the grandmother and is doing fully online learning. Now apparently the grandmother doesn't think it is her job to facilitate phone conversations with my husband and his son because she doesn't want my husband to have her contact information. But, his son is doing online school so he must have some sort of devise and if he didn't the school would have given him one. So my husband could call him on that devise instead. His son's mom said that she would talk to her mom to try and accommodate and she said she would ask her mom for the contact details for the devise that his son is using for school. Well weeks have past and all we have are unanswered text messages. I mean my husband used to be able to have more frequent contact before this whole mess. Not that his son's mom was great at keeping in contact but she was somewhat decent to the grandmother's nothing.

On top of all that I had the baby and we have been on the rollercoaster of newborn parenthood. I kind of thought having the baby will lessen the feeling of the absence of his son, not that our baby could ever replace his son, but at least give his mind something new to idle on. However I overheard him telling his mom how much our baby reminds him of when his son was a baby and makes him miss his son more. Apparently his son was a crier which sucked because he was in college.  

His son has yet to see our baby because we have had zero contact. I just feel so bad for my husband because he is so frustrated and upset with this whole situation. Even though I know he is happy to at least have one of his children around all the time; it is also a difficult because he misses his son so much. He told me he doesn't feel like a father to his son in the way he feels like a father to our baby. To his son he feels more like a fun uncle, who visits and calls sometimes. 

He is just constantly at the mercy of his son's mom and grandmother especially with everything going on we have no idea when he can visit. I am also starting to realize a pattern in that family. His son's mom grew up without her father, the grandmother has custody of her brother's kids and he isn't in the picture as well. The grandmother was also the one who was always threatening my husband with immigration. It is a family of single motherhood. I don't know how it came to be in actuality so I may be an assumption that they just prefer to have situations where the father is uninvolved.