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Submitted by jlmtik164 on Wed, 12/20/2006 - 9:12am

Thanks everyone for your support and advise. A man contemplating a divorce with a psycho woman should be strongly advised to get a lawyer no matter how dire your financial situation. My BF had experienced court bias right from the start but with his recent court experience where injustice was so blatant, that's when it really hit home. Women who have a BF going through such BS should really support their men coz its whatever affects our men affects everyone. Such ordeals are almost impossible to deal with without other people's support. Doesn't it hurt us so bad when we see our men agonizing over being ripped apart from their kids by evil ex-wives and the courts actually siding with them. Anyway, good will always prevail finally. All the best to everyone dealing with such crappy experiences especially around the holidays.

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Anne 8102's picture

Submitted by Anne 8102 on Wed, 12/20/2006 - 8:02pm

I agree, do whatever you have to to secure legal representation and, no matter how badly you/he want the whole legal battle to disappear, don't sign anything that you'll regret later. After three years of separation and hostility, my husband finally signed over everything she wanted, just so he could get the divorce finalized and be rid of her. Well, guess what? He discovered too late that half his paycheck was too much, visitation doesn't really exist and he'll never truly be rid of her. Long story short, it's a pay now or pay later scenario and it's better to pony up and pay a little now, because you'll only end up paying more later on if you don't.

~ Anne ~

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Submitted by Caitlin on Thu, 12/21/2006 - 8:37am

When I came into the picture, they had been separated for over 2 years and she had filed for divorce 1 year prior. The consent to final divorce decree had been signed by both parties and all was ready to go. (As a matter of fact, we misread it and thought is WAS the final divorce decree, but it was just the CONSENT to final divorce decree.)

Then we got together and she SLAMMED on the brakes. Fast forward another 2 1/2 years and we're still at the very same spot. His income, after child support and alimony is taken out, is under the federal poverty level, so affording a lawyer has not been an option. But reading this makes me realize that we can't afford NOT to have one!

I found out that my employer offers INTEREST-FREE LOANS to employees. That's our retainer, baby! This will all be over soon!

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Submitted by Candice on Thu, 12/21/2006 - 8:52am

take that option and run with it! You are right, you can not afford to live w/o an attorney!

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Submitted by vicomtesse on Wed, 12/20/2006 - 9:02pm

Couldn't agree more with you ladies...between the many trips down to the courthouse and the exasssperating back and forth to get her to agree to anything, it is SO worth it. We did it ourselves, having made that decision when the ex was being cooperative. However, we all know that those moments are fleeting and conveniently, she was uncooperative the rest of the time! My BF took way less than he could have but I agree with him that it's worth it to be rid of her. And in our case, she makes more so the support is OK.

You are right JLM that good wins out...be strong...