Summer vacation blues
SD10 arrives tomorrow. Everyone in the house is excited. They are also completely oblivious to the storm that I am positive is coming.
I have reached a point after 7 years of blended family hell that I just keep myself braced for it and try to hold down my own daughter's and not let it rock their boat too much.
You can see our history on most of the first posts in my blog, but long story short, BM has been slowly brainwashing SD and every time we see her it takes a bit longer to reprogram her. Because BM moved away with her 6 years ago to the southern states (we live in Canada), we have a lot of reprogramming to do by the time we get her back on holidays and for the summer. By the end of summer she will be back to being our normal little girl usually and we have to send her back knowing that when we see her again for Christmas we have to start from square one.
BM is a massive piece of steaming horse shit. I have never hated anyone more in my life.
Our last few skype convos with SD have been painful. She rolls her eyes at us and mutters and very blatantly doesn't want to talk to her father. Despite the fact that he would crawl over hot coals naked for her, she is taught to hate him and I see his pain and I just feel helpless.
So wish me luck. I am scared that this time is going to be the worst storm yet.
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Her mom is completely crazy.
Her mom is completely crazy. We went through a massive and expensive custody battle when she originally came up with moving with SD, but lost because DH had been working full time when she was young while BM had been a SAHM, and despite the fact that DH also did all of the right things as a father including financially providing for his daughter, in the eyes of the court it doesn't matter. All that matters is that she had been with mom for more physical time than dad.
The courts also don't take quality of time into consideration. BM and DH divorced because BM met a man online and cheated. Somehow, she was still awarded custody and allowed to move so far away that we hardly get to see SD...
All of this is to illustrate that BM is a hideous person. So hideous that she doesn't care about the psychological implications of tearing her daughter away from the only family she has ever known, or the psychological damage that will surely take place due to parents alienation syndrome.
Could also be a bit of jealousy too, but we usually save up our super fun things for when she is here.