BM is refusing to pay for SD to travel
It is always something.
So, the short version of the story is that when I met DH, BM and SD were still here in Canada but within a year of that we were in court fighting for custody because BM decided she wanted to take SD and move to the USA to live with another man. After she lied her way through the courts, they allowed this to happen and now SD9 has been living there for a few years.
The courts did make BM responsible for the payment of transportation of SD which is good, so she has to fly her to Canada and back 4 times per year. DH's child support should cover this.
Last May BM and her internet guy had a baby. They incurred major debt with hospital bills because she doesn't work, as she prefers to live off of her child support payments, so now she is trying to force DH to pay for SD's plane tickets.
SD shot back that he will buy the tickets and take the money out of her child support.
Now she is refusing to reply to him and confirm that he should purchase tix for thanksgiving.
Looks like we may end up having to drag this bitch back to court.
So frustrating!
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Refuse to by the tickets for
Refuse to by the tickets for BM, if she doesn't pay for the tickets and send her for Thanksgiving then file with the courts and request SD make up the time by spending the entire Summer in Canada to make up for the lose of time spent and to gain some.
no biggie, DH should simply
no biggie, DH should simply ignore BM and say.... Oh Hon... you now the CO, if you do not do this I will file contempt..... and then ring off...
if she does not buy the tickets he should simply report her for not following CO....
Nail BM's ass to the wall.
Nail BM's ass to the wall. She violates, she is in contempt. Use your Canada residence advantage and start dragging BM around the courts by the nostrils until she catches a clue. If she thinks it is expensive buying 4 visitation round trips per year for your SKid as the CO stipulates wait until she has to buy a round trip for herself and her DH once a month for a court hearing since of course you will need to put her DH on the stand as well. }:)
Lather, rinse, repeat.
Stay the course.
Once you start trying to
Once you start trying to manage this kind of stuff and adjust the support, it gets really sticky and ugly really quickly. I agree, let her refuse then take her to court for contempt. Paying lawyer fees and court fees is much more expensive than buying a plane ticket.
NO, op's dh, do NOT buy the
NO, op's dh, do NOT buy the ticket. file for contempt, i wouldnt even involve an attorney as this is so blatant. a court order is a court order, it's black and white. if bm was unwilling/unable to purchase the tickets as ordered, then she should not have requested the move.
every time he speaks to sd, i'd ask him to close with "i cant wait to see you over thanksgiving!" just assume and act normal, as if everything is being followed as it should.
Good news! After putting our
Good news! After putting our collective foot down, BM has mysteriously come up with a means to purchase thanksgiving tix!
We are in the process of looking for internet information to use in case she tries this again to show her that it would not fly.
jee, i wouldnt even bother
jee, i wouldnt even bother doing that. "showing" her would be pointless to someone already threatening withholding. i'm glad she's following the order for right now. but like i said, it's a court order, it's black and white. if she violates it, file for contempt. if push comes to shove, showing by action would be much more effective than enlightening her w/ internet articles - IMHO.