For those of you who don't know, a brief history in point form...
-had BD6, divorced her father amicably (since he is a deadbeat and didn't fight for custody)
-met DH and SD6 when our kids were 2. He was divorced because BM cheated with a man she met on the Internet who lives in the USA... there were custody battles going on for him.
-married DH who moved 9 hours away to live with me, despite the fact that it made custody negotiations harder for him he had to escape BM from hell
-prior to trial BM and the man she met from the USA got married (it was a quickie - her own child did not even attend) likely to look better in court...
-long story short BM was a stay at home mom when she wasn't spreading her legs for random Internet men so therefore she won custody because SD6 is more familiar with her than with her father who has a phD And was working full time to support his family
-myself and DH have a daughter together now (BD2) and we drive with BD2 and BD6 9 hours to pick up SD6 and 9 hours back and then repeat everyother weekend to see SD6
-BM got the court to agree to allow her to move with SD6 to the USA to live with random Internet man (f'ing love our justice system... NOT) leaving me and DH terrified for SD6
-the court did order BM to fly SD6 back and to retrieve her for visits, however as we only see her holidays and summer the visits are few and far between when she moves...

Which brings us to present time... After 2 years of waiting for a green card BM finally obtained one and is taking off with SD6 next week, not even allowing the kid to finish her last month of kindergarten. We are devastated and there is nothing we can do to stop her. She has plane tickets purchased for a week from Tuesday.
We have to hand SD6 back tomorrow morning and my heart is breaking. We won't see her again for 5 weeks and then we have to pray that she honors the custody agreement and actually does fly her back to us. This woman is a jobless swine and I doubt her new husband is going to enjoy footing the airline bills for very long.
I have no idea how I am going to let go of this little girl and watch her walk away into this scary new life...
My heart is breaking and I am fighting to hold it together in front of DH because he is more stressed than anyone.
Despite all of the difficulty we have had getting used to being a mixed family, this little girl has been like one of my own for five years...
This is Awful! Cross your fingers for me that I don't start bawling tomorrow morning when we have to drop her off. I don't want the fat swine BM to see me cry.