Hmmmm
Ok...so I tried to come up with a list of 10 things I like about my SS. I quickly shortened it down to 5 things, because I came up with 1 thing...
-1- Imaginative
I feel terrible, I mean how can I not like at least 5 things about a child who has been in my life for 5 years? I can easily come up with 10 things I do not like
-1- Pee's pants during the day
-2- Pee's bed at night (even though he went a whole year being dry) and wears a diaper, that he is PROUD of
-3- Doesn't wipe his butt after he p**ps.. just pulls up his pants
-4- Lies
-5- Can't ride a bike, or anything for that matter. If it involves 'movement' he won't do it.
-6- Has no emotional attachement to anything. You can throw all his toys away, and he's fine with it. He has not emotional connection to people.
-7- He's almost 8, but acts like he's 3 still. Since I've been in his life (since 3) there is very little difference in how he acts and behaves.
-8- He gets up at 4am
-9- He thinks he knows everything (Just like his Mom)
-10- He's conniving and disrespectful.
Ok.. so that was easy.. and sure.. I can actually come up with a few things that I don't like about my OWN children.. but I can just as easily come up with a list that I LOVE about my OWN children... so Step Moms (and Step Dads) out there... can you come up with a list of 10 (or 5) things you like about your skids? I'm actually very curious. Maybe there is something I'm not thinking of!
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I'll start from the
I'll start from the top...
SS12
1- Funny. though he at times is a little too vulgar. But for the most part, he's funny.
2- Loving. Though he doesn't always show it, I love it when he gives me a hug out of nowhere.
3- Innocent. He isn't a bad kid and doesn't lie, steal etc.
4- Plays really good with the younger kids
5- Creative
6- Helpful when asked (though I have to ask about 5 times before he "hears" me, but he helps)
7- skillful
8- Honest
9- He's pretty respectful. He has his moments like any 12yr old.
10- He can actually cook!
SD6
1- Girly
2- Lets me take care of her
3- Loves life
4- Loves all God's creatures
5- Very compliant
6- Very helpful
7- Willingness to learn new things
8- Gives me hugs and kisses out of nowhere
9- Takes care of the 2 younger kids when they're sad
10- Looks just like her daddy!
SS4(almost 5)
1- He's left handed like me!
2- Has his daddy's mischievous side
3- Has so much love in his heart
4- Has beautiful blue eyes (even though he gets em from BM)
5- Isn't afraid to have a breakdown and express his feelings
6- I love to watch him play. He's such a typical little boy!
7- He is always helpful
8- Tells me that he missed me during the week
9- Isn't afraid to snuggle with me
10- He's so imaginative
Heather- I don't think you should feel terrible. If you were to have asked me this about a year ago, I'd only give about 1 or 2 good things about each skid. I think that when they do something that irritates us it's even more irritating than when our bio kids do it (or at least in my case it is). My BD's can get angry and scream and cry and I will laugh when I walk out of their room. But if SS's or SD cries all I can see is the nasty attitude Crypt Keeper BM coming out of them and it drives me nuts. Mainly b/c the way she's raising them isn't very healthy.
I can make a list of things I can't stand, and it wouldn't outweigh the things I can't stand about my BD's; my BD is going through pre-puberty and I think we all know what these crazy hormonal changes can do to a girl! Last night I felt like taking her to her dad and saying, "you deal with her now".
Don't feel bad about a thing girl!
"I aint no Carol Brady"
Yes, I can do this...
SS (11yr)
1. Handsome
2. Intelligent (freakishly so)
3. Clean (likes the girls and even wears cologne to school!)
4. Ambitious (very eager to learn about almost anything)
5. Great Athlete (and a great "team player")
SS (10yr)
1. Baby "cute" still 10
2. Kind (worries about everyone's feelings)
3. Helpful (even helps with cleaning, mowing, trash etc.)
4. He's a gentleman - even opens my car door quite often
5. Loves my cooking!(says its better than Bm's)
"God grant me the serenity accept the things I cannot change; the strength to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.
Easy! I'll make my whole list about SD 15.
1. She's loving as can be.
2. We talk like old friends.
3. She doesn't disrespect me.
4. We like to do the same kind of stuff, bubble baths, movies, lotions, etc.
5. She helps me with BD 2 more than DH does!
6. Anything I ask her to do, anything, she does without lip.
7. She honestly loves me back.
8. Somehow her hair is just like mine, curly but can be straight with a fight. We both like it better straight and give each other tips and help each other get it that way!
9. She lets the stuff her mother says about me go in one ear and out the other without giving it a second thought.
10. She LOVES to help me cook, and eats anything I put in front of her.
SD 21
**crickets chirpping** *still* *still* yeah, you get the point.
~all you need is Faith, Trust, and a little bit of Pixie Dust...and sometimes a machine gun~
my ss6
1- silly boy! always making us laugh
2- loves myself and my BD13 BS 17- although we have our moments
3- very adventurous
4- quite the imagination
5- loves most of my cooking except for the veggies
6- helps with the cooking
7- eager to learn new things
8- helps with chores, when asked couple times
9- is a total sweetheart when dad not around (don't ask me)
10- is a cuddle bug when time to go to be tucked in.
OMG---we have the same step son
My stepson was exactly the same at 8. To the T exactly. He is 13 now and not much has changed except the peeing and pooping. He finally stoped using the bathroom on himself at 9-10. But still does not have goog hygeine no matter how DH and I try. He still WILL NOT try to ride a bike, skate any thing (like you said) with movement. He will not even tie his shoes, he still says he CAN'T. I find that hard to believe at 13 and we have shown him since I came into his life at 4. He acts like he is on a 8 year old level. No emotion with anything or anyone. ...sorry I know this is not advice but it was weird reading your post. These kids should be twins!!!
don't feel bad heatherm...i can't do it either
I came up with 2 things I like...
1. sweet kid
2. says please and thank you
things I don't like
1. his voice
2. he doesn't change his underwear for a week or want to bathe (I am told this is just how boys are..that can't be true can it)?
3. NEVER shuts up...talks through movies
4. Asks stupid questions NONSTOP like, if you could be any superhero who would you be; if you could have any super power what would it be; what is your favorite part of ____ movie; what is your favorite chip; what is your second favorite chip; what is your third favorite chip; NONSTOP questions like that and they never end!!!
5. Is a little bossy know it all
6. when we are playing games, he moves my person for me, tries to tell me what room I should go in (CLUE) or what properties to buy (Monopoly).
7. Pouts when he doesn't win games
8. Cheats at games
9. Constantly wants to watch inappropriate things on TV because he can at his moms
10. his existence
See....I am a much more terrible person than you!