My husband and I had a long talk after cooling down last night. I told him I wasn't shopping, cooking, entertaining this bunch ever again. As far as i am concerned, I will no longer have anything to do with them.. He said that was fine, he would support me and his son is a jerk.

The stepson calls me "the other woman" and I found this out because Ss wife told me!!!

Fortunately for me, the do live out of state. I've told hubby to go visit them or see them won't me, but he will not do it. Hubby sausage if he has to make a choice brown them and me, he will choose me. I DO NOT want to come btwn a parent and a child and have repeatedly told this to hubby. I have told him this since day one . I have tried for 10 years to be a loving, supportive, stepmom without stepping on birth mom but Ss won't accept me, so I am done.

My first husband left me (for another woman) when our son was 18 months old, I had thyroid cancer had quit my job to be a stay at home mom, and had $39.00 in my purse! So I raised my son by myself (and he has two engineering degrees and an MBA from an IVY league school. No problems w him or his wife and grandson.). So I figure if I can get through all of that, I can get through this.

My hubby's mother said she wouldn't blame me if I cut ties with the Ss and family. She would have done it years ago! (Love that woman!)

Thank you all for your input.....