So BF finally popped the question..I've been expecting it..he talks about getting married all the time but until now hasn't produced a ring. its pretty exciting and all but the catch is..he's moving away for work way up north (9 hrs or so from me) for 1-2 years..obviously he wants me to go with him but as of now I can't go..I can't just drop everything because he's decided thats what he needs to do to further his career. anyway...since hes gone a bit he's also dropping out of the custody battle with his ex and her husband. this is the tricky part. I'm not sure how I'm feeling about all of this..on the one hand..I'm relieved (and if you've been reading my earlier posts you'd know that I'm on a disengaging method right now with SS, because I can't deal with everything associated with having a child right now) but on the other hand, I'm thinking that if he can so easily leave his child (and me )behind for his own sake, then is that how its going to be when and if we have children together? I know that since this opportunity has come up he should take it..but it just seems a little selfish of him to do this at this time..when his son is stil young and needs him in his life..and to start to plan a future with me. He said he'd take off a week or so from work to have the wedding (probably this time next yr) but that leaves me with ALL the planning, meetings, fittings, etc. I guess I just don't like the fact that we have to spend our whole engagment apart when thats supposed to be a great time in our lives and it feels like we're taking a step backwards (we just started living together 2 months now). Just a little vent...lol