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Submitted by Elizabeth on Wed, 10/29/2014 - 9:35am

DH is a chronic liar, and it's stupid and annoying.

Today's example:

DH bought BD11 an expensive pair of jeans. He knows I don't approve of this as 1. I don't want the kids using clothing as a status symbol and 2. It seems silly to spend a ton of money on something when I could buy three or four of a less-name-brand item for the same price.

So I asked DH about it:
DH: They only cost $30 no shipping

I guess DH will never get over his unrealistic expectations

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Mon, 10/27/2014 - 9:55am

So this weekend he brings up "his kids" in front of DD11. Then he comments how "we" have three kids (including SD21) and I said, "No, WE have two kids." And then he's bitching about how I should consider SD21 my kid and how it causes him a lot of stress (can't remember his exact word) that I don't.

Communication: What good does it do to talk if the other person isn't listening?

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Mon, 09/22/2014 - 12:22pm

Just incredibly frustated and kind of sad this morning. DH and I have been on a long, slow downward spiral and I don't know how to change that. I'm not even sure that I care enough to change it any more. And that is sad to me as well.

It's just a lot of things building. I'm clearly not cut out for this steplife. What was I thinking?

Are you married to SD21 or to me?!

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Fri, 09/19/2014 - 12:56pm

Yep, DH pulled another one. He and BD8 are traveling to SD21's town for family weekend at her college. I posted the other day about how I'm the very last person to know plans, behind random strangers at this point.

Well, DH told BD8 he was going to pick her up from school (changed work schedule, didn't infom me until a couple days ago). I finally asked about it yesterday, he confirmed he is picking her up.

So fed up with being the last to know ... anything

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Wed, 09/17/2014 - 12:24pm

So DH told me weeks ago he wanted to go see SD21 for family weekend or some such thing at her college, a 5-hour drive from us. And of course he wants to take BD8 with him (BD11 has activities she can't miss).

First, he asked me if it was OK with me, but I discovered he'd already made a hotel reservation. So there's one.

Uh oh, is DH trying to pave the way for a reconciliation?

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Tue, 09/02/2014 - 1:02pm

So yesterday we were talking about plans for the next few weekends. DH is going to see SD21 at college one weekend in September and said something about "us" or "we." I said, "Oh, no, I'm not going." SD21 has treated me like crap for years. No way I'm driving 10 hours to see her. Plus our two BDs have activities.

My kids crack me up

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Mon, 08/25/2014 - 10:04am

DH and I celebrated our 13th wedding anniversary last weekend. We didn't have a babysitter and so we took our kids with us to dinner.

Somehow their thoughts turned to SD21 and her family. I guess last time DH went to SD21's city to see her, she was at BM's house and so they went by there and of course BM wouldn't let them in so my BDs were forced to stand on the sidewalk and look over the fence. Not sure I got the whole story, but there is the gist.

Not sure how I feel about this

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Tue, 08/12/2014 - 1:10pm

I discovered that SD21 has posted a bunch of pictures of my kids (her half-sisters) on her Facebook page in a Family album. I'm not sure how I feel about this. I'm not sure I like having my children's photos out there where I cannot control them.

In addition, SD21 is only in one of those photos as she spends little to no time with my two bios. The rest of the photos are ones which I have to presume DH is sending to SD21 so she has a clue about what is going on in their lives.

Not sure this is worth rocking the boat about, but it does bother me. Thoughts?

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