I guess DH will never get over his unrealistic expectations

So this weekend he brings up "his kids" in front of DD11. Then he comments how "we" have three kids (including SD21) and I said, "No, WE have two kids." And then he's bitching about how I should consider SD21 my kid and how it causes him a lot of stress (can't remember his exact word) that I don't.

OMG, AGAIN?! Can he never get over this? Can he not understand that SD21 and I have not spoken for SIX YEARS and that's fine with BOTH of us?! Can he not understand that SD21 is not allowed to treat me like crap with impunity. What the hell more does he want? He already gets to parent (or NOT parent) SD21 exactly as he sees fit with absolutely no input from me. He saw to that by shooting down absolutely everything I ever said about SD21. I know nothing about her life except that she's sitting comfortably in college earning middle of the road grades and getting money handouts from daddy. She's in year three of a five-year or so college career, has her own car and her own apartment and plenty of spending money.

WHY does he think she's OUR kid? She's NOT! And I don't feel a bit guilty about that. Mr. Have His Cake and Eat It Too can just get a grip.

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Oh, it's definitely a one-way

Oh, it's definitely a one-way street. I have to FEEL and ACT like SD21's mother (within DH's very narrow bounds that involve giving her money and approving of EVERYTHING she does) but SD21 can treat me like crap 24/7. Um, yeah.

Sure he did! The man has no

Sure he did! The man has no filter and he is so SURE he's right! And this way he can bring DD11 over to his side, right?! She pretty much just ignored the whole conversation, but it definitely was not ideal to have her there. He ... will ... NEVER ... get ... it.

Ha! About how I feel at this

Ha! About how I feel at this point. What man (except my DH) can look at the woman he married and tell her she should feel and act like the mother of his (not her) child whom she hasn't spoken to in SIX years? It doesn't even make sense.

They don't get over it. But,

They don't get over it. But, at least mine has stopped talking about SD18.

What I don't understand is how you can be okay with him giving money to her? DH knows if he gives her a dime, I am gone. We spent too much fighting to keep her and he needs to spend his money on college for SS16, the kid that wants to be here.

We married when SD was 8 and

We married when SD was 8 and spent years putting away money for her college. It was earmarked for that purpose, that is what he is spending on her. I told him once that is gone there will be NO MORE! It's pretty close to an empty account at this point.