Yesterday, which was a Saturday, was a lot of work for me. All 4 kids here, the FDH (who isn't so darling) was a complete bear! His back was hurting, and he was tired, but that's no excuse for the way we were treated by him. I tried very hard all day to help him feel better, I tried to keep the kids occupied and well behaved, but the day turned out terrible, and now this morning is starting out on the same note. When the man of the house is miserable, and then makes everyone else feel badly, is that a sign of emotional abuse?? I would like to believe that he's not being this way, but when I spent the whole day kissing his ass, just to bo spoken to in an uncaring tone, just to have my kids yelled at by him, just to be mocked and made fun of, I don't have any reason to belive otherwise. I was going to get up early this morning to make pancakes for everyone, I was still laying in bed and I asked my son if FDH was making breakfast. Son said yes, thinks he's making pancakes, so I stayed in bed a bit longer. Then I hear the kids playing, and SS7 was starting to get snakey towards the other 3 kids, I hear FDH scold all of them for his kids behavior. So I knew I had to get up and intervien, it's not what I wanted to do, but I feel obligated to protect my kids from him at times, because FDH is NOT fair at all with these kids. He favors his two, and verbally bashes my two...(IT'S BS...I KNOW)...so I come down stairs, and I tell FDH to "stay out of it, you should do nothing and say nothing with these kids today, after yesterday, I don't believe you will handle it properly. You won't scold your son for his behavior but you will scold everyone for it...that doesn't make sense!" Then I realize the "breakfast" he's making is just for him and his kids. That pushed me over the edge! I don't understand how we can be in a relationship, living in the same house, supposidly in love with each other, and planning a future together. I do everything with his kids in mind, he does not! I take care of his kids all week, he works nights, so he doesn't get much time with any of us, and when the weekend comes, he always seems to choose what he wants to do, who he wants to interact with, who he wants to be nice to. I'M FUCKING SICK OF IT!!!!!!!! I don't do that to him or his kids. He's just a fucking jerk to me today! I asked him to leave the house today so the kids and I can bake christmas cookies, I have the dough ready waiting in the fridge. Plus I wanted to have the kids decorate the x-mas tree. He tells me I should leave...what a prick!! He acts as though caring about me and my kids is just something he can only do when it's convinient for him...which is not what I want in a relationship. He's outside now, doing what, I don't care! I just want him to stay away from us today! I get no apologies, no signs of remorse, not until it gets this bad, and then he usualy stays away from me until I'm not as upset, then he waits for me to want him to hug me again or whatever. He's such a dumb ass sometimes, I can't stand him when he's like this!!