Just as I expected. Not surprised.
So there was a little dilemma with my SD. The bm said my SO would have to find someone to watch the skid next week, after school at 3 when she gets off the bus. The bm's bf usually watches her until the bm is done work, at her house, but the bf has to work next week.
We found this out on Sunday, when the SD had called her mom. My SO and I figure I could watch her. I am done work at 3 and by the time I get home, SD would just be getting off the bus. SO tells SD that I can watch her after school, all next week. He tells her to tell her mom that ( cuz the bm refuses to speak to my SO). SD says ok, and that's that.
Yesterday (Tuesday), and my SO calls the bf of the bm (the secretary lol) and he asks if SD said anything about me watching SD after school next week. The secretary says no, so my SO explains that SD can get off at my house and I can watch her until SO is done work. The secretary says he will pass on the message to the bm.
So the bm texts my SO 10 minutes later and says "I found someone to watch daughter after school next week. Thanks."
Meh. I knew that was coming.
SD remembers things fairly well. I wonder if her mom brainwashes her about me, that's why SD failed to mention my offer of watching her next week-she knew her mom would say no. She's as really good kid. I hope her mother doesn't ruin that.
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Well she shouldn't be the
Well she shouldn't be the "messenger" between SO and BM. That is a very awkward situation.
I know it's difficult b/c our BM doesn't talk or receive mail from biodad.
Which opens the door for the BM to brainwash the skids. You can bet your bottom dollar that is what is happening.
Be sure to research "Parental Alienation" as well.
I love how these BMs can get any one of their family or flav of the week to do babysitting but the SM is NOT to be trusted!
Of course this can actually work in your favour as down the road, SD may become a victim of Parental Alienation and start "making up stories" about you abusing her to "please mommykins"
Ick- totally something that
Ick- totally something that would happen with our BM!! I will hope right along with you, CC, that your SD remains enough of her own person so as not to be affected by BM's poison.
And, on processing your post, just who exactly did this maniac *think* would be watching SD for SO? Ummmmm, his partner! Like he would try to find someone else when you, the SM, are able to be there? Do they honestly think that any man would pay a sitter when his partner/wife would be able and happy to care for her stepkid?
DH and Uberskank only
DH and Uberskank only communicate through their child. It drives me nuts. But I'm just the childless, barren SM. I know nothing of raising children and "don't understand their position." Whatever. DH's kid enjoys the power and DH is clueless about her ability to manipulate the situation.
I think the bm is finally
I think the bm is finally realizing she can only control certain things, and she'll definitely dig her nails in so far, so she won't lose the control.
SD being around me, in my life, and at my house is inevitable.
I'm content with the way things are right now!