Well my son t13 had a surprise party today. he was so excited. it was a good day in that respect. BF would not attend because he felt a little weird about going to my ex's MIL house. my son's father is deceased, and i do understand my bf's issues with being there. but this was not about my ex, it was about my son. I have spoken with him on several occasions about excluding my son, who is going to be his SS. I have in the past done alot for his children, especially the youngest who now lives with us. I told him that i will not attend any events for his kids until he starts attend my sons. He doesn't need to be a father to my son, he had a father, and he has uncles and a grandfather that are taking the father figure roll. I am not his childrens mother and i do not intend to act like their mother. (she is CRAAAZZZYYY) but i am there for his children when they need me, as a friend or when they don't feel they can talk to their parents about stuff.
all in all a good day for my son!!! he was very happy with his entire family getting together and celebrating his big 13th bday.
it was bitter sweet b/c of the absences of his father.