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I NEED HELP!!!! i don't understand the next court date.

angel27229's picture

the lawyer is costing a fortune, and i don't understand why this has to be sooo complicated b/w my fiance and his ex.
anyway my question is, what is a short list proceeding? the bottom of the notification says exceptions in support filed by defendant (she is the defendant).
Does this mean that she does not agree with the child support order that was completed by the mediator person? I was not there and i haven't spoken to the lawyer in a while b/c our bill is just sooooo high.

She handed ss10 over like it was nothing, and now she is fighting for him back. (all because we took her for child support) selfish selfish selfish.
She want's 50/50 custody, but we live is different schools, so she wants to pick him up at our house after she is done work everyother week. so we feed him, do the homework, then send him there?!?!?! i don't like it, and ss10 keeps saying he doesn't want to live there. OHHHH and the house she rents is up for sale, she neglected to mention that at the last custody mediation.
I am losing my mind over this. she has nothing to tie her to my fiance except ss10, and i feel this is her way of trying to create drama.

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Totalybogus's picture

Chances are great that she will not be able to modify the custody arrangement because of the school districts and such. However, the cost of going through the motions to get to that end result and establish child support can break your back let alone your bank. It is ridiculous. Sometimes its just not worth it to rock the boat. Maybe if you guys can mediate and pretty much drop your request for child support, she will go away and you won't be footing the outrageous attorney bill. Only you and your Fiance can decide if going for the child support is worth it in the end.

AznEmpress's picture

Unfortunately I don't think anything you do will be to her liking.

I received the advice of a Counselor of sorts who advised the only thing to do is to remove yourself completely from the situation and let your partner deal with his ex and the child.
I, personally, didn't and still don't believe that 1. removing ones-self would make it any better, or 2. that the ex wouldn't blame you for being the catalyst behind the saga anyway: 'she must be telling you to say/do/argue...'.
I was advised that "a scorned woman hath the wrath of many men..." by a woman who was and still remains scorned 10 years on... she knowingly does and says things just to stir the pot and be difficult...

In both your case and mine, we're the ones paying the price for it all as we care and we stress over things, but because the child is biologically half hers, she can really do and say what she pleases until the Courts decide.

In truth, I wish we would take the ex to Court and have it dealt with properly once & for all. Good luck and stay calm. The more riled up you get, the more she probably get's her kicks out of it.