So, after discussing with our family therapist, we put out a "roommate agreement" for all three of us (DH, me, and SS20) to sign. The rules were all pretty reasonable (in fact most of them were taken from a previous roommate contract I had with roommates before I moved in here. As I expected-FIREWORKS ensued. DH thought (and said so when I told the therapist I didn't think this would work) that SS really only wants harmony in the house and would of COURSE be enthusiastic and sign.

Cue the "I toldya so"'s. He FLIPPED out. Went on and on about how passive aggressive it is, and if I have a problem with his messes, or his music being too loud that I needed to just tell him. Notice the "I" part. Even though DH presented the agreement and added that he had written it (based on mutual input) SS of course only see's ME as the bad guy in this situation. He continued to escalate the situation by saying I didn't need to be here, I am not welcome, and of course he has no intention of respecting me. That I "knew what you was getting into when you moved in here with us." **Sidebar-DH and I had already been engaged, with plans for my moving in prior to our marriage, BEFORE SS got kicked out of his house in other state, and then BM's house subsequent to that. So, I wanna slap the little shite and say, no "YOU" knew you were getting into. This is a package deal now between me and DH.

Basically, I feel like DH should have been more firm, and certainly stopped him from saying those things, or correcting him when he did. Now that a day has passed, I feel that BOTH of them owe me an apology for making me feel unwanted in my own home.

So frustrated. So upset, and really still seething over the things I COULD have said but didn't to snotty little SS.