Oh Hail No
SO, I was just informed by DH that SS's girlfriend from another state will be coming to stay with us for a week. Starting tomorrow.
Things I flipped out about:
1) Lack of notification
2) DH not saying no
3) DH not discussing with me BEFORE granting permission
4) DH acting like I am behaving anything less than rationally when being PISSED about a houseguest I had no notification of coming to stay in my home for a WEEK while both SS and DH will be at work=I will be stuck at home with her.
I am so mad right now I could spit nails. I said no, no way, absolutely not. Of course, that got overturned because GOD FORBID we anger, disappoint, or otherwise behave like SS should get anything other than his way 100% of the time.
So. Mad.
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DUDE!
DUDE! :jawdrop:
I met her about two years
I met her about two years ago. They have been on again off again, and mostly he has gone to visit her (although only twice since my residing with DH and SS.)
I can promise you that I will find work for her to do during the day. That is an awesome suggestion. Those dishes won't wash themselves.
Yep-DH is getting the silent treatment right now.
I actually agree 100% with
I actually agree 100% with this.
Also, as just occurred to me, now might be an appropriate time to mention other females he has had over, late night, to watch movies in his room (of course without asking-but two birds one stone, you know?)
I can see why you are mad at
I can see why you are mad at your DH. But why all the comments about the GF? Why would tell OP to rip her a new one in front of anyone? Why bring up past girlfriends, or whatever? What did she do? For all she knows her BF told her it was okay with everyone for them to visit.....
Regardless if you notified or not, she is still a guest. I understand wanting her to help with cooking and dishes...she's staying at your house, and offering to help is just courtesy. But telling her to wash windows??
You're angry with your DH, take it out on your DH. Don't make someone else feel like crap to make yourself feel better. Frankly, she has done nothing to you. If she comes and is rude to you in your own home, or expects to be waited on hand and foot, then by all means react to that.
^Beat me to the punch lol
^Beat me to the punch lol
I will probably be the odd
I will probably be the odd person out on this one but I don't think you should take your anger out on the girl. SS probably was like, "yeah come visit for a week, dad and anchor are cool with it!" If she is a normal person she would have asked him if he was sure it was ok for her to visit and he told her it was. SHE doesn't know that your SS and DH are asses.
I WOULD backhandedly try to break them up or make SS miserable along with DH though. And naturally she should clean up after herself while she is visiting, but I think going in with the mindset of, "great, this bitch is going to be in MY house and I have to entertain her..."...doesn't seem entirely fair.
no no, OP should not have to
no no, OP should not have to leave her own home to accommodate their rudeness! I wouldn't want a stranger lurking around my home all day, and you know that SS or Dh is certainly not going to step up and be responsible for entertaining her!
speaking from past traumas,
speaking from past traumas, unfortunately
hand her maps to the mall (or whatever disappearing options there are), start running the vacuum cleaner at 9:00am, make all the noise you need, and Own Your Turf!!
It is called common courtesy
It is called common courtesy and having manners towards someone who for all we know was told she was invited. If OP wants to tell her DH that she will not be cooking or cleaning up after his DS and GF, then she should. But she should not go out of her way to make GF feel unwelcome or uncomfortable because of a situation that she had no control over. Just because I did not specifically invite someone to my home does not give me license to behave rudely towards them. My mother raised me better than that.
The same thing just happened
The same thing just happened to me except it was my SD's half-brother (same BM) that my DH offered to let come live with us so he doesn't have to pay rent while going to college.
My DH can't understand why I'm so furious about this. There's no hope for him if he doesn't get why this would upset someone.
Seriously, I can't understand these guilty daddies. They'll bend over backwards to make their spawn like them.
SD and her half-brother have
SD and her half-brother have the same BM, different dads. DH isn’t related and never has been his stepdad. BM abandoned her kids, the half-brother’s dad is in jail. DH invited the half-brother to come live with us in a fit of insanity. I want to kill him over it.