HOLY COW!!!!!!!!!!! So mad right now, I could spit.
So 29 year old SS came for the weekend with grandson. He lives an hour away so, so comes here lots. He brought 5 year old grand son. HE decided to come for four days. Of course, I do not get asked about any of this. THEY deceided, they being SS and my partner, then I am TOLD this is happening. This is the same adult SS that likes to make synde comments about getting all of our stuff when we die. So fine, I suck it up and SS comes for the weekend. I never get ASKED if it is okay if he comes, so this is nothing new. What is really REALLY pissing me off is the fact that SS took it upon himself to invite SD here to visit him. Okay..so I suck THAT up and do not say anything. Now here is the real issue...he not only invited her to come here for the day, it seems that he has taken it upon himself to invite her to stay here for the NIGHT. Now this is the girl who has stolen from me. Lied about me. Bad mouthed me. Has manipulated me. Has fabucated a story about me and THEN when to the police with it! I am SO MAD THAT I AM SPITTING NAILS.
How would you handle this? What would you say? Hubby is verbally abuseive so I know if I say anything, then he will give me a blast but I can feel my gut chunning, I am that MAD.
Wow. I am mad just reading
Wow. I am mad just reading this. I'd get the hell out and go get a hotel if I were you. Well actually if this were me it wouldn't fly. I'd be giving my hubby a 'blast' and calling the cops on the unwelcomed step kids. But that's just me.
Jenw, thank you so very much
Jenw, thank you so very much for your advice.
I soooo wish my family were close enough for me to go and visit but they live in England and I in Canada.
What upsets me is the fact that how dare SS invite ANYONE to MY house without consulting me OR am I just being controlling?
THANK YOU EVER SO MUCH.
Oh shootingstarz, I so wish
Oh shootingstarz, I so wish that I were stronger.
If you were me what would you say to hubby? Would you say anything to the Step-son and if so what would that be?
Thank you ever so much.
Linda
OMG. Wonders will never
OMG. Wonders will never cease. I am totally gob smacked!!!!
Got home from work tonight and SS SINCERELY appolised for having invited SD to my home without asking me first. I could not believe it.
I told him that it was more the fact that by not being asked whether it was okay with me to have her in our home after all that she has
done to me that it makes me feel like I am a non enterity. He apoligised for making me feel like that and said that it will never happen again. Wow, I am so impressed with SS right now.
Now if only SD could grow a heart and a brain. hehe
Good. Now to make it so it
Good. Now to make it so it doesn't happen again.
You need to set boundaries.
You need to set boundaries. I say this over and over again. Write them down. Be fair and enforce them. Saved my relationship and sanity.