I would say-your dad is done raising you-he supported you for 18 (or more) years so your on your own, buddy

You're a LOT nicer than I am if you are going to just give SS28 something if your DH dies. Especially since he's making such rude remarks. If your DH wants to leave him money, isn't that addressed in the will?

As to what "I" would say to SS28, I honestly would just laugh and say "Oh SS28, you're so cute!" while shaking my head. They hate that.

It sounds like DH has already let him know - in front of relatives so there were witnesses. SS goes balistic becasue he knows he can not do anything. Too bad! Maybe he is TRYING to make you mad so you look bad in front of others like he does. DH needs to confront him about his behavior.

Yeah, this is totally uncalled for. I would have a chat with your hubby and let him know how uncomfortable it makes you. Hopefully, the two of you can come up with some sort of plan. If it comes down to it, you can invite him to leave every time he starts into that nonsense. Or invite him to pay for the funeral. Ha!

Geez....what is wrong with people? I want to smack them all for their insensitivity.

After my little brood cow of a sister finished having her kids, she started putting labels of her name on our parents things. When I called her out on it, she said she gets everything because she had all of the grandchildren (not true, but true to her).

Seriously??? I wish I was there the day she found out our parents named me executor of their respective wills.

I agree with twopines, just laugh at him so he starts to feel foolish. Since I am only one year old than your SS I will say that this is not the norm for someone his age to act and it's ridiculous! The last thing that I think about is who get's my parents home or savings and investments when they die. I am more worried about keeping them alive for as long as I can! I encourage them to take trips and enjoy their lives, and remind them that saving massive amounts of money is not important because you can't take it with you when you go. They worked hard for their money and so did your hubby, your SS shouldn't even be feeling entitled to it. Your SS saying those cruel things to you shows that he is not only selfish and materialistic, but also that he believes you don't deserve to be the executor of the will for the man that chose to spend the rest of his life with you. Just laugh at him, he's obviously delusional!

Next time I'd jokingly reply, "ss, the only thing you'll be getting when tour dad dies is the bill for his funeral!" then laugh. If he brings it up later, remind him that you've already informed him he is getting rhe bill! He does it to rile you up and it works. Joke about it and act like it doesn't bother you.

Really? This is bizzare! I would say there are some very hurt feelings there. I am guessing stepson thought he was to inherit all this and in the back of his head maybe he thinks he has that entitlement. Wow, I would be be upset and want all of this to stop too. Has your husband ever thought of asking him one on one what his thought behind the comments are all about?

Your SS is a arrogant jerk and this is all about entitlement. His rudeness is beyond belief and until somebody . . you or DH sets him straight he'll continue to be the jerk that he is. If I were in your shoes, I'd encourage DH to not only discuss the will, but discuss how his rudeness is not appropriate nor will it be tolerated going forward. He needs to learn respect and how to keep his mouth shut.

Not sure why parents refuse to chastise adult children. Therein lies the problem. They basically get the green light to act like jerks when they know no one is going to call them out on it. It's time to set him straight once and for all so this will be a none issue.

Good luck.

I would look at him calmly and say "Wow SS, when you finally succeed in growing up, the memory of this moment is going to REALLY be embarassing... you may even be as embarassed then as your father is now"

Then I'd spit in his drink. Ok, I kid about that.

These adult kids are bizarre. SS really does think your money is his money and often dads promise just this in the throes of divorce. Hopefully there never is a next time, but I bet you there will be. When his short fuse is lit again and he explodes just ask SS this “Is your wife going to leave her money to her parents, or her siblings when she dies? They were there first after all, and blood is thicker than water, and you aren’t blood.” If he doesn’t have a wife, think of some other comparison.

After saying that and before SS goes ballistic on you, one second of fearful emotion (how dare you say my wife is going to die, how dare you say where my money goes, etc. etc.) will pass over his eyes before he resumes his hypnotic and abusive diatribe. You will have struck a nerve but it won’t stop him because he is out of control and will destroy anyone and anything in the path of what he believes is his fortune ie: your money. Believe me, if SS sees you as standing in the way of “his” money (which clearly he does), you are the enemy.

I’m sure your DH knows that SS goes berserk when discussing inheritances so why does he turn on lunatic mode to begin with if not to express his anger at both of you indirectly?

I'd repeat a bunch of previous comments he's made previously and then say "is all you care about is cashing in on your dad, you selfish little shit? I'll tell you what YOU'll get. You'll get the funeral bill and a kick in the ass."

" Ah but not if you die first." Smile and keep sharpening a knife or slicing a squishy tomato.

I would tell the ingrate that up until this moment he would have inherited something. But now, him wishing his father dead puts a rather nasty edge on things and the Humane Society sounds less stressful for everyone concerned. Then the 2 of you won't have to worry about an untimely end.

I love the "funeral bill & kick in the ass"... }:)

I do too!!! Thanks!

PS be happy your DH can leae everything to you...where I live, I will have to buy-out crazy loser on "her" part of our house or be homeless if I ca't afford to buy her out...sigh...I need to move!!!

I would tell him..."that's great...since you are looking forward to the money, I'll make sure to call you so that you can be his full-time nurse if he ever gets sick...and by the way, I'll send you the bill for the funeral too"

I'd just find out what nurses make-add a hefty charge for him being a jerk, then add the total to the funeral bill.