I'm not a therapist, counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist, etc., so I won't even pretend to be an expert on this subject, but what I will say is that I was always taught that "GOOD feedback" included more "I" statements than "you" statements, so IMO opinion "good advice" would be more like "I can relate. Here's what I did or what would do" rather than "you are or you should". You don't have to agree, but isn't there a basic principal of life that states "if you can't help then at least don't hurt"?

Am I completely off base here? Please tell me if I am, I really want to know!