This is the 3rd year I've been with my FDH and involved with this fucked up situation! I can't stand his family!! And I can't stand how he becomes someone else when we hang out with his famiy!! My FDH says things to me like..."my family doesn't know who I am and I don't say anything cause they will always draw their own conclusions and they still won't know who I am, so that's why I don't say anything" so wtf?...he acts like someone I don't know when we have to go spend time with them. And we HAVE TO!! His sister and her fiance flew in from California for the week, they are staying at my FDH's moms house, and she only lives 5 minutes away from us. His family planned on going to church at 7, this is nothing new, but my FDH decided to go with them with his kids, and during that time is when I am dropping my 2 off to their father. I am not religious, I don't go to church, and FDH hasn't gone to church since we've been together, he sprung this on me when we were over at his moms right before I had to leave to take my two back. I thought we all were leaving together because he told me he had to have his kids back by 8, so I thiought he was going to get the other car cause we go in opposite directions when we bring kids back. NOPE, he tells me they are staying there and going to church with his family, and I'm just supposed to wait for them to be done, and Im supposed to come back there to pick him up...I did all that, then I stopped at home and got some beer ans I sat there and got drunk in front of them! My 2 SS's ages 9 and 6 become different as well, they don't mind anyone, they become spoiled little brats! I have 2 kids of my own ages 10 and 6, we all had our christmas here at home yesterday, it was nice, but it all shifted when we went over to FDH's mothers for the remainder of the day. So this is what I have to look forward to...no kids today, but hanging out with his family. Our kids are at their other parents home and families opening gifts with them. My kids return tomorrow and we go see my mom to open the gifts she got us. Tuesday, his kids return, and we go back to his moms to open gifts a fourth day! FOUR FUCKING DAYS OF GOING FROM HERE TO THERE FOR OPENING GIFTS!!!! I HATE IT!!!!! But5 this is how his family is, and they always seem to have things their way. I hate christmas in this blended family!!!!!!!!!!!!!