Ok so the story is that FDH married his crazy high school girlfriend, had SS10 and SS7 with her and eventually opened his eyes to what she was, divorced her, and things have gotten progressively worse with her and the skids over the last four or so years to where she falsely accused FDH of abuse, has tried to take the kids away, and now they are in state custody. Here is a little background with FDH's family, and I would love it if you would just state an opinion of what I think it says about my fears...

FDH is the oldest of 4 siblings. His father, (my FFIL) and mother were married and had him, middle FBIL (My future BIL), and FSIL (my future sister in law). She went nuts, had drug problems, had him in and out of court etc, ran away with FDH FBIL and FSIL, FFIL (my Future Father In Law) and it took six months for him to find them and then got the kids back. FDH's mother has had nothing to do with them. FDH even went to his home state to try and forge some relationships with his maternal relatives as an adult but communication is few and far between and he says he and his mother really didn't connect at all, so he doesn't speak with her. Back to the past, after FFIL got FDH/FBIL and FSIL back, he married FDH's SM, and they had another child, the youngest FBIL, and divorced once the kids got older and out of high school. SM was the one who was around for their youth, ran the household, etc...but SM doesn't care to have too much to do with FDH, FSIL, oldest FBIL and youngest FBIL. FSIL has a resentment about this, FDH does but not so much, I think because he doesn't trust her since her and the Bottom Feeder got along and SM felt that FDH was being disloyal like his father by divorcing the mother of his children...

My fears are that the Skids are going to resent me, and I just feel like FDH is in the similar situation to his father...like watching a car accident you've been a part of already...

Thoughs and perspectives PLEASE